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Posted by Shirley Anne on May 26, 2012
Topographic map of the United Kingdom. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
It’s funny how life works out sometimes. Once, long ago, I dreamed of living in some hot climate but obviously not in the UK. Admittedly it can get quite hot even here but it doesn’t last for months on end, more like weeks if we are fortunate. All interest in moving away from where I am now left me years ago. I think many people romanticize about living in warmer climes but not everyone actually uproots and moves away. In my case I had thought of moving to Australia just after my ex and I were married. We spoke about it and made tentative enquiries but decided against the idea not long afterward. Basically it was down to family ties and being able to see family members more easily. We just couldn’t tear ourselves away but had we thought about moving to Spain for instance I cannot be certain the same reason would have prevented the move. E and I are too deeply rooted to the area in which we grew up and have lived all our lives. I think most people feel this way and have no real desire to move away except for short periods such as holidays. Even the thought of moving to another county can be something of a pipe-dream. Fairly recently a friend of mine up-sticks as they say and moved to another county in the south-east of the country but that move was driven by personal circumstances and a need to be located nearer to London for person reasons at least for the short-term. Probably the move will be permanent for I see no reason she should think of returning. She will be able to plant roots and become an established member of the local community. I suppose we could all do the same thing if the wish was there. Sometimes we can be tied to a place for so long and then not be in a position to move even if we wanted to. At this moment in my life I have no such desire to move away from my present location. It is a question of being contented and happy living where we do but when we are not and there is a specific need to move away many find they have no other choice but to move. Breaking the ties to a place can be difficult for some but others have no difficulty whatsoever. To be truthful I think we can all grow to like a new place and be quite happy moving elsewhere but I don’t think we ever forget our roots.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on May 20, 2012
Unusual Thursday (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
On Thursday morning I had to keep an appointment with a lady who lives a couple of miles from me. She needed some electrical work doing and she had telephoned me a couple of days previously apologising for the state of her house in advance. Now I work in all sorts of places and have seen almost every situation you could imagine when doing my job. There was only ever one time whereby I refused to work in a house. The house had been let into apartments and the task was to completely rewire the whole house. At that time, around 45 years ago, I was working for the local electricity supply authority. I visited the premises and immediately left to telephone the depot that I was refusing to work in the house. The house was an absolute mess, it stank of stale urine in most of the rooms, there was evidence of cockroaches and mice dotted about and how anyone could have lived there was beyond me. My supervisor came to see what the problem was and agreed with me that I shouldn’t have to work in such conditions and the job was cancelled. There has only been one other incident that came anywhere near that one and that was when I visited an old lady a year or two back to do some small jobs for her. I wrote about it on here. She had a house full of cats that were left to come and go as they pleased and left a mess everywhere, and I mean a mess! Her house was filthy and neglected too just as she was. I felt sorry for that old lady because she had a mental problem, no-one to help her and she refused any help she might otherwise have received from the authorities, although I blame them for not being more forceful in seeing that she got the help she required. So two very dirty households, the former being by far the worse. The owners of the first house were just being lazy and were quite capable of getting the property habitable whereas the old lady was not really responsible due to her mental condition. When I went to do the job on Thursday I wasn’t quite sure what to expect but as it turned out the house just needed cleaning out properly and some money being spend on redecoration. Her situation, having been divorced some years back, had left her financially at a loss with two sons to rear. Her sons were now young adults, one with a good job but the other suffering with Asperger Syndrome, never leaving his room. This I could see was a burden to her and the reason she found herself in such a predicament. She was struggling to get things done simply because she was short of cash. She expected my fee to be much more than I actually charged her and I guess that came as a relief. I took her with me to the electrical supplier to purchase a couple of items we needed to complete the job and we chatted much along the way. She kept telling me that it was so good to be able to chat with a woman for a change. I assumed from that remark that she had no access to female company in her daily life and was finding it difficult. I had wondered why she followed my every move around the house but then I realised that she was simply seeking some company. I finished my work there and returned home for lunch. No sooner had I finished eating I received another request from a woman seeking help with her faulty lights, two of them were not working. I had planned on spending the afternoon at the pub but I went to the house and had the problems sorted out within the hour. It was around 3.30 before I finally set out for my walk to the pub. However, my next-door neighbour was out in her front garden and I found myself chatting with her for the next fifty minutes or so before finally setting off again. When I did arrive at the pub there were only a few people there. I bought my drinks and sat at a table facing the bar. I spent a couple of hours just sitting there watching people going to and fro. As people came in I was acknowledged by most of them as most people who go there know me either by sight or personally. I ended up chatting with many of them and then later in the evening we had the weekly pub quiz. I sat with some friends during that time but just before it was time to count the points to find out who had won I put on my coat, wished everyone goodnight and left! ‘I’ve had enough’, I said, ‘I’m going home’! Although I’d had a lovely afternoon, well late afternoon, and a lovely evening too, I just got bored with it all and had to leave. This is the sort of thing that happens to me sometimes and the reason why I lose interest and cannot be bothered at times as I have written about a day or so back. Occasionally, as the saying goes, my get up and go has got up and left!
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on May 18, 2012
Just Annoying! (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
At a clients house the other day I was asked why I was acting so cheerfully despite the problems I was having doing a certain job for her. My reply was that it wouldn’t make any difference whether I was annoyed or not, the problem would still remain and I would still have to get round it! I told her that I don’t get upset or annoyed with pretty much everything these days because if I did it would only be me who suffered but there are still some things that I find annoying. What is the point in getting all worked up over things you have no control over though? It just isn’t worth it. I have to say at this point that I have a page on this site dedicated to ‘Annoying things’, those things which indeed do annoy me at times but the main thing is I don’t get upset about them as perhaps I once did. Annoying they may still be but more of an irritation and something we all have to live with and endure at times. There is nothing wrong about having things that annoy, it’s how we react to them that matters. One of my pet dislikes in life are bad drivers, those who cannot handle their vehicles safely, responsibly or skilfully and those who think the rules apply to everyone else but themselves. I dislike aggressive drivers and those who think they own the road. Whilst out driving recently I came across a section of road, about a mile of it, that had a revised speed limit imposed upon it reducing the speed from 40 to 30 miles per hour. The change has been well signposted and reminding signs are dotted along the route affected so there is no excuse for disobedience. The road itself is a major trunk route between my town and the next one some seven miles away and is quite busy at certain times of the day. I observed the speed limit as I drove through the section of road affected but was being tail-gated by a larger vehicle whilst doing so. As the speed limit reverted to 40 miles per hour I increased my speed accordingly but the opportunity to overtake me was there at this point and the following driver couldn’t get passed me quickly enough. As he overtook my vehicle he had to exceed the 40 mph restriction and he then accelerated away at something like 20 mph faster than I was travelling which was 40 mph. The sad thing was that I caught up with him a half mile ahead as he was stuck in a queue of traffic at the next junction. I was in the inside lane driving through and he was in the outside lane to turn right. The point was he had ignored the speed limit and it hadn’t made any difference at all but it could have resulted in someone being injured through his negligence. That sort of driving annoys me but as I am unable to do anything about such incidences I never let it get to me. I won’t allow someone elses bad habits ruin my day. I got the awkward and annoying job done through persistence, perseverance and by having a jovial attitude to it all.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on May 11, 2012
A woman spying on a pair of male lovers. China, Qing dynasty. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
How often I read about people condemning those of the faith for being outspoken, for standing up for Jesus, for upholding the truth that is contained in The Bible, for adhering to God‘s word. They are ridiculed and mocked whenever they open their mouths. Recently, and many times in the past too, I read an article whereby a Christian was being mocked for speaking out against homosexuality, that is the practice of it rather than the condition itself. God tells us in several places in His word that He abhors homosexuality but it falls on deaf ears for some. It isn’t just homosexuality either, it is many things that people do against the will of God. Rather than admit to God’s truth being right they will either simply deny His existence and thus nullify whatever is written in Scripture or they will try to twist the truth to suit themselves. They wish only to hear what they want to hear and disregard everything else. It is to be expected for it says as much in Scripture that people will act this way. They will read this passage too yet it will fail to register with them because there is a veil over their eyes preventing them from seeing the truth of Gods word…..here is a passage from Scripture describing this very attitude. Remember, The Bible is a prophetic collection of writings too……….
2 Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage —with great patience and careful instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. 4 They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.
People turn to other faiths and religions because these religions often present them with no challenges. They turn to speaking in the name of love but that love is of the human kind, it isn’t the love for and of God. If it were they would be obedient to His will. ‘Let there be peace on earth and goodwill toward all men, let us live together in harmony, let us tolerate the behaviour of others’ is a recipe for coming against the wrath of God. Do your own thing, deny your Maker, make up your own rules, believe in falsehood and lies for God has even given you that choice but it is to Him that you will have to answer. Do you really want to be facing God’s wrath? It is of no use trying to put your own interpretation to Scripture or accuse anyone who knows God’s word to be the truth to be doing so. What you need to be doing is getting into God’s word yourself, turning away from all that is unrighteous and inviting Jesus into your heart. Then you will be able to see, the veil will be lifted from you eyes and those itching ears will no longer need scratching!
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on May 2, 2012
Driver in a Mitsubishi Galant using a hand held mobile phone violating New York State law. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
It used to be the normal thing for people to do when out and about. Each day I am out myself I see many people who, although they are concentrating on something it isn’t their surroundings, it’s their mobile phone or iPad or some other electronic form of gadgetry. Now I have written about the use of mobile phones whilst driving, something I still see people doing as if the law doesn’t apply to them but pedestrians can be just as bad when it come to using gadgets when out and about. There was an unfortunate accident that happened to a young woman in China last week. She disappeared into a hole in a pavement (sidewalk) whilst busy concentrating on her electronic gadget. I am not certain what type of gadget it was but that is irrelevant. Now I have to say that the hole only appeared once she stepped onto a weak section of pathway which had developed through the ground beneath being washed away. She ended up at the bottom of the deep hole which might have been avoided had she not been using her device but I accept that is debatable. The point is that we can all be susceptible to being involved in an accident if we concentrate on the wrong thing at the wrong time. There is nothing wrong in using an electronic gadget whilst out walking as long as it doesn’t interfere with the more important things we are doing at the time. I often see children using their phones whilst walking to and from school and some adults doing the same when off to work. Whenever my mobile phone is ringing, if I am walking I stop to answer it and don’t usually move until the conversation is over. Apart from the fact that I find it difficult to concentrate on the caller if I continue to walk I could end up tripping over something I hadn’t noticed and end up on the ground. Some people have no such problems it seems but when I see them doing both things there is nothing natural about their actions. It only takes a moment’s lack of concentration and anything can happen.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on March 23, 2012
Circular saw blade on antique portable sawmill. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
A day or two ago I heard on the television news about a man who was rushed into hospital carrying his own severed left arm! He had been involved in an accident with a circular saw which left his arm hanging just by its skin. Having the presence of mind to pick it up and call for help probably saved him from completing the rest of his life with just one arm. It must also have taken some courage considering the state he was in. A real hero in the face of adversity to be sure but he perhaps should have paid more attention to safety whilst using such a potentially dangerous piece of equipment. Maybe it was the shock of such a traumatic event which allowed him to remain calm, the boost of adrenalin searing through his veins blocking out the pain. In the same news program I heard about the effects war had on some of those involved in it. During combat soldiers usually just get on with it but some suffer the effects later, even after they have been demobilised. This is probably a similar thing to the previous story in that adrenalin enables people to do things they might otherwise be afraid of doing. Later, when the effect wears off many suffer when realising what they had been through and for some this can be debilitating. We often hear of violent crimes happening in our society and I wonder what gives those who undertake them the nerve to carry them out, especially in the case of murder and other such heinous crimes. Perhaps it is also the adrenalin kicking in which gives them the courage to carry out their wicked schemes. Of course it isn’t the adrenalin deciding the course of action, people do things whether good or bad because it is in their hearts to do so. Whether we are heroes or villains the same hormone rush, it appears, decides if we succeed or not sometimes.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on February 16, 2012
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‘Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexatious to the spirit’, is a line quoted from Desiderata, a work written anonymously. I have always admired that work as being a cross between advice and common sense. Loosely it is religious in nature but is advisory for those seeking a quiet and peaceful existence. I come across many different people during my days away from home but of all the types of people there are I think those who are loud and aggressive are the most disturbing to my peace. Some people shout because they are hard of hearing and some shout because they are insecure. Others simply shout because they are aggressive and too outspoken, they elevate themselves above others if allowed to do so and make a fuss to get their own way. They are usually the confrontational amongst us, ready to shout others down without regard for their feelings. Most of us if we are honest, prefer the quiet life and only make a fuss when it seems necessary. I have been in places whereby my morning or afternoon has been somewhat spoiled by the actions of others. There are limits to what behaviour is acceptable when we are aggrieved or when we conduct ourselves in society but I see this unwritten code ignored by many. Whenever I am confronted by a loud and aggressive person I first try to calm down the situation but will exit from their presence if their bad behaviour persists. Life is too short to have to deal with loudmouths. Why should I get upset because of the insensitivity and loudness of another? My past has been dotted with such people over the years and at times I have been left crying after the actions of loud and aggressive people. It didn’t help that I was timid and shy, in fact that made the encounters even worse. These days I stand my ground but I would still rather avoid this type of person altogether.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on February 4, 2012
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I was watching a game show on television broadcast late in the afternoon or early evening which many of you in the UK will most probably have seen. It is called ‘Pointless‘. The game itself is based around the contestants returning obscure answers to gain as few points as possible, ultimately to try to win the day’s jackpot. Like many other programs of a similar nature it is an informal affair. The presenter and his assistant, although both wearing suits, do not wear a tie but have an open-neck shirt only. This seems to be the norm for any program which is presented during daytime viewing. However when it comes to presenting programs later in the evening a more formal dress code is usually called for but there are exceptions to this these days where once before it would have been considered a taboo. Old habits are hard to change in some cases though. Take for example a snooker championship event. During the preliminary rounds the contestants often appear with open-neck shirts with no tie but usually with a waistcoat. When, in the evening and especially if it is the semi-final or final set of games, everyone wears a tie. Even the male presenters exhibit the same routine. Why should the final be any different from all the other games? It seems we can be laid-back and informal but think it is necessary to wear smarter attire for the evenings. There is nothing wrong with having a dress code for an occasion but it should perhaps be as a minimum requirement rather than an obligation to formality. We see our behaviour regarding many things in life having a dual standard. Why should it be acceptable for women to be able to wear whatever they like, within reason of course, when the same consideration isn’t given to men? There have to be standards in a civilised society of course but we can be far too politically correct for our own good sometimes. Speaking of political correctness, we take things too far at times. How stupid is Bah, bah dark-coloured sheep? Doesn’t the colour black exist anymore? Too much bureaucracy, political correctness, unnecessary restrictions and dual standards can make life unbearable on occasion and we can become neurotic about stepping on someone’s toes in case we find ourselves punished for just being sensible. As it stands now some of the things we do really are pointless.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on December 31, 2011
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I have never believed that homosexuality (and lesbianism) was right and I have always objected to the association given between the homosexual community and specifically the transsexual community. The two are incongruous. These beliefs are based upon my faith as a Christian and what the teachings are on the subject as far as Scripture is concerned. God clearly states in several places in His word that these things are wrong but the gay community either chooses to ignore it or doesn’t believe it or tries to twist the truth in order to justify the lifestyle. Of course they may not believe in God in which case in their eyes there isn’t a problem. It amuses me when non-believers quote Scripture to defend themselves when they don’t believe in God or when they try to justify what they do by the use of Scripture as if it mattered to them. I do not have a problem with homosexual or lesbian people in the least but I do, as a Christian, have problems with their sexual behaviour which for Christians (and perhaps others) is unacceptable because it is in conflict with what Scripture says on the matter. What is objectionable is the fact that some quarters insist that the Christian Church accepts this behaviour as normal and allows acceptance of individuals into their midst without question. Christians are taught and it comes naturally to them to love their fellow-man but that does not mean accepting their sexuality and lifestyle. How can a Christian believer reject God’s word on the matter? It isn’t a question of love in the way that is often demanded of a Christian either. We get told that we should love those who are different as it is the Christian thing to do. Well it is the right behaviour to expect from a true Christian. However, loving someone doesn’t mean accepting their behaviour.
1 Corinthians 6
1 If any of you has a dispute with another, do you dare to take it before the ungodly for judgment instead of before the Lord’s people? 2 Or do you not know that the Lord’s people will judge the world? And if you are to judge the world, are you not competent to judge trivial cases? 3 Do you not know that we will judge angels? How much more the things of this life! 4 Therefore, if you have disputes about such matters, do you ask for a ruling from those whose way of life is scorned in the church? 5 I say this to shame you. Is it possible that there is nobody among you wise enough to judge a dispute between believers? 6But instead, one brother takes another to court—and this in front of unbelievers!
7 The very fact that you have lawsuits among you means you have been completely defeated already. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be cheated? 8 Instead, you yourselves cheat and do wrong, and you do this to your brothers and sisters. 9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men[a] 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
12 “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything. 13 You say, “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food, and God will destroy them both.” The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 14 By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. 15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”[b] 17 But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit.[c]
18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.
Footnotes:
- 1 Corinthians 6:9 The words men who have sex with men translate two Greek words that refer to the passive and active participants in homosexual acts.
- 1 Corinthians 6:16 Gen. 2:24
- 1 Corinthians 6:17 Or in the Spirit
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on December 13, 2011
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People do some funny things. Whilst watching the evening news, well it was more to do with the weather, I saw a young man holding his jacket over his head to catch the wind. We have been experiencing some very high winds these last few days and on Thursday in particular it was blowing 60 to 90 mph depending on where you were. The young man could have been lifted off his feet and thrown backwards a few yards (metres) perhaps injuring him but he was going for the moment. In a later program we were shown a huge open-structured tower similar to electricity pylons but much taller. It was, or is, the only one of four that stood in the area and was used as an early warning radar aerial during the war. We were told that it was built in 1939 but it looked perfectly safe standing there in a remote part of Lincolnshire. Today it is being used by the Royal Airforce as a training utility testing cadets capability working at height. The camera showed the view from the top of the tower and I felt insecure just looking at the television screen! I’m afraid I couldn’t attempt climbing that height even with the safety gear the presenter and RAF members were using. I get nervous at height but strangely enough in certain circumstances I lose all fear, for example when in an aeroplane or building (as long as look down out of the windows in the case of a building), ridiculous as it may seem I was never frightened when climbing scaffolding but I get nervous if climbing too far up a ladder, say more than fifteen feet. I was amazed to find that parascending was thrilling and I wasn’t in the least scared of climbing so high even though the parachute might have developed a fault. A few months ago I went up in a basket suspended from a hot-air balloon and felt quite safe. Strange isn’t it? Some of those fears are irrational I know but there is always an element of danger in any of them. It just seems peculiar that some things I am not happy doing yet others, equally as potentially dangerous I don’t mind. When I transitioned I was told that I was brave doing what I did but I find some of the things mentioned here require much more a certain amount of bravery. Me? I am not really brave at all, when something needs doing I do it if I am able or if it is necessary but I refuse to do things I am not that happy doing. No I’m not brave at all.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on December 5, 2011
I have never been able to understand why some people are so untidy and others are not. Take my ex. E for instance, as long as I have known her, which has now been just about 40 years, she has been an untidy person. She spends a lot of time sitting with her computer in the rear lounge busy doing her competitions, which incidentally wins her many prizes but at the same time she gathers around her quite a lot of paraphernalia.
And this is a good day! Now I have seen her bedroom and it is much worse. Don’t misunderstand me here, I am not criticising, believe me I have lived with her for so long and am used to it. It’s just the way she is. I am completely the opposite inasmuch as I do not like untidiness and therefore you will never see my bedroom in such a way or the armchair on which I sit cluttered and left that way. I have worked in many houses over the years, thousands of them in fact. I have seen places far worse than E’s minor untidiness and places so clean they are like show-houses without a blemish or anything out-of-place. One extreme to the other and many in-between. I like a house to be ‘lived in’, to show that people live there and are not being too fussy about their space. One house I visited was so bad but it wasn’t so much the untidiness of the place it was filthy too. The woman had about 12 cats freely roaming about, cat food all over the unswept floors, cobwebs everywhere, dust an inch thick, food left open on a table, unwashed dishes and much more. I think you get the picture. It is one thing to be a little untidy but quite another to be very untidy and also unclean. At least I can say that although our house is a little untidy in places (LOL), it is kept clean. There may be an excuse for untidiness but there isn’t one for being dirty and I cannot understand why people allow themselves to get into such a habit. Human beings come in all shapes and sizes and with all sorts of strange habits and persuasions don’t we? It is what makes us what we are. It is our differences which hold us apart sometimes yet the same differences can attract, up to a point!
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on November 25, 2011
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I used to be a person who despised watching soap operas on television but in more recent times I find myself watching one or two of them. The most striking thing I notice in these programs is the way they portray how people deal with each other, more specifically how they treat each other. They say that soap operas are not true to life but in fact they are very much true to life. Admittedly much is crammed into the episodes and much is going on between the characters but when we analyse it all we can see that the things that go on are the same things that most of us experience or have experienced in our own lives. I wonder why people treat other people the way they do. Some people get along with almost anyone, others find it difficult to get along with anyone at all. People can be horrible toward some and yet at the same time be nice to others. Why are people horrible toward others and what pleasure do they get out of putting another down? As human beings we can be both nasty and kind, selfish and unselfish and we are selective in which is dealt to whom. What makes us hate one person and like another, be kind to one person and leave another out of it? If we analyse our behaviour we might find that we treat others in a way which is dependent on what we might gain from it. If someone is different from us we are often cautious in dealing with them but all the time we are looking to see what effect they will have upon us, whether beneficial or otherwise. We may not think about these things, they just come naturally. So when I look at soap operas do I see aspects of my own personality being portrayed or do I feel that I act in a completely different way? Do we think we have faults that should be worked upon or do we feel we are not behaving badly? Do we really treat our neighbours as we would have them treat us? Do we really love as we ought or do we select whom we should treat preferentially?
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on November 13, 2011
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A deafening blast
A shriek of pain
Mud filled clothes
Relentless rain,
And bodies left
Just where they fell
In this infernal
Man made hell.
All through the night
All through the day
The suffering
Won’t go away,
Our comrades’ dead
Our spirits low,
Now all that’s left to us, is hope.
The War
Copyright Shirley Anne 11 Nov 03
This Sunday is rememberance Sunday, a day when most people ‘honour’ the dead although many services are held on the actual day, 11th November, which this year was on Thursday. Poppies are bought and worn on lapel and blouse. Our soldiers gave their lives that we might live in a free society…..well that is what is claimed. Whilst it is honourable to prevent our country from invasion it isn’t nice that people die doing it. They say that people gave their lives to the cause but in fact they didn’t give their lives at all, their lives were taken from them. Very few would deliberately give their lives freely. Nobody goes to war with the intention of being killed but they do get killed. Whilst it is proper to mark the passing of someone who has died it does nothing to repeat the process year on year. Just what do we mean by ‘honouring the dead’ anyway? I see people standing beside graves and memorials with heads bowed supposedly honouring the dead. What are they actually doing? Well their thoughts may turn to the suffering that was endured or those who were left fatherless or widowed but probably not of the person in the grave who isn’t there anyway, just a pile of bones. So they stand about thinking all sorts of things over a pile of bones. This could be done at home, in church, at work…..anywhere and it would still be meaningless. I agree that we should support soldiers who have fallen on hard times or are left injured or maimed through ‘serving their country’ but I resent the fact that they have to do it in the first place. I may give to the poppy appeal but I won’t wear a poppy to show that I support anything to do with war. People who stand around graves are honouring the evil spirits that put the dead there in the first place. Life goes on and whilst it does then that is the time when we should be honouring people, whilst they are alive, not when they are dead!
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on November 5, 2011
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Regular readers of these pages will know that I have broached this subject in one form or another in the past. Looking at todays society and in particular the decline in moral standards and behaviour makes me wonder how and why things are they way they are. Probably many of us would be unaware of most of the things that go on around us if it were not for the news broadcasts or programs about police activities which have become somewhat popular lately. There are many reasons why our children and youth get into a life of crime and it is easy to blame them for their unruly behaviour and lack of morals. So if it isn’t a simple question of blaming them then who do we blame? Knowing the difference between what is right and what is wrong, what is acceptable and what isn’t is not necessarily why a life of crime is embarked upon however many youths don’t think that their behaviour is wrong. They may feel that it is their right to do as they please and react violently when apprehended. Lessons are sometimes learned but many return to their old ways after receiving and working out their punishment. There is a hard core of persistent re-offenders who it seems never learn from their mistakes. When I see these people being arrested I feel so sorry for them that they should waste their lives in this way. Of course I feel much simpathy for those whose lives have been affected by criminal activity. We have all done wrong things in our lives but it didn’t become a way of life as it is for some. So who is to blame? Is it bad parenting, being in a low-income family, living in underprivileged areas, poor housing conditions, peer pressure or lack of job prospects? Can we place blame on any of these things or is it a more fundamental problem concerning a persons natural inclination to do wrong?
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on October 25, 2011
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As children we have to learn quickly that sometimes we can be defeated. Learning to accept defeat can be hard for those who are proud and want to show that they can excel in all things. It is a learning curve of course for as we grow we realise that we are not the best in everything we do and there will always be others who do better than ourselves. Sometimes we find ourselves at the top of the pile and that can be something equally as difficult to deal with. We have to learn that defeat can be a good thing for in defeat we are built-up. One thing we have to learn as Christians is to be able to take defeat and realise that fact. We learn by mistakes and those who maintain that they never make mistakes never made anything! On Sunday afternoon in the UK many football games are played. I like football but I am not that fond of it at the expense of more important things. I do have a favourite team which is Liverpool and they are not doing too well so far this season hovering around a third of the way down the Premiership table. They are doing better than some though. One of my sons, the younger one, loves football too but he supports Manchester United and often ribs me that I support a lack-lustre team like Liverpool but he forgets that Liverpool has won many trophies over the years but just lately are not doing quite so well. There is always rivalry between football supporters, for instance in Liverpool we have Liverpool and Everton, reds and blues and in Manchester they have Manchester United and Manchester City. City football team have never done as well in recent years as United generally speaking but on Sunday the tables were turned. Manchester City team are enjoying a very good season so far, much as they did last season but even better and they have become serious rivals for the Premiership title. Sundays game began slowly but eventually, at half-time the score-line was 2-1 in favour of City. The second half saw them defeat United to the tune of 6-1, something hardly expected. My son watched the game but dashed out of the room when the score was 5-1. I could tell he was annoyed by his reactions, door slamming and mumbling to himself he left the house and drove off somewhere. A dangerous thing to do in my estimation. He might be involved in an accident whilst driving in that mood. He obviously cannot handle defeat as well as he should. He normally has a short fuse anyway and is sometimes difficult to deal with for that reason. He was taught to accept defeat as a child but I guess it got the better of him. One day he may realise that being defeated isn’t the end of the world and somethings he shouldn’t take personally. Handling defeat is a challenge and something we must learn to deal with before it destroys us.
Shirley Anne
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