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I could never understand

Posted by Shirley Anne on October 24, 2011

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Once upon a time, sounds like a story coming up but no, not today, today I want to talk about transvestitism. The dictionary description: the practice, especially of men, of wearing clothing usually associated with the opposite sex for psychological gratification.

When I was very young I always wanted to dress as a girl and I never lost that feeling for the rest of my life but as I grew into my teens I realised that what I wanted was not so much to dress as a girl but to be one. Throughout my childhood I desired to be female but knew nothing about it ever being possible. In reality I was already a female but was in the wrong body as the cliché goes. Dressing up for me was a way of fulfilling who I was as far as I could make that possible. Fear and self-denial, circumstances and situations prevented me from taking matters any further. In later life when I eventually became serious about transitioning I discovered many other people in the same boat but I also became aware of people for whom dressing was simply nothing more than a self-gratification and that gender identity wasn’t an issue for them. By far the majority of cross-dressers that I met were male but I did get to meet female cross-dressers too although in their cases they were all gender dysphoric, they were men in women’s bodies as I was a woman in a male body. For the male cross-dressers it seemed to me that dressing up was more of a hobby and as I said, self-gratification, whether that was of a sexual nature or not is irrelevant. I could not understand why anyone should want to do that but it showed a lack of awareness on my part that there are indeed many different people in the world all with differing views, sexual urges, fantasies, persuasions, call it what you will. Even though I now know these things I cannot understand them which brings me to the point where I realise that people who are not transsexual do not always understand that condition either. Ultimately education and time will correct this but I feel there will always be those who will not accept those who are different from themselves. All I can say is that I do accept that people are different for whatever reason even if I do not understand sometimes.

Shirley Anne

 

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The truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth

Posted by Shirley Anne on October 20, 2011

O Worship the Lord

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I base truth on what is written in the Word of God, the inspired word of God, The Bible and in the revelation of truth as given by the Holy Spirit. What others believe is a matter for themselves to consider. Having made a statement like that I have to admit and accept that not everyone believes the same. For those however, who purport to be Christian, the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth as written in the holy Scripture should not be taken lightly. Mis-interpretation is to be avoided as far is possible and the assumption that something is truth because certain passages seem to indicate that as fact should be avoided at all costs. Never take Scriptural passages out of context in order to justify one’s beliefs. The whole tenet of Scripture is to be taken into consideration over an issue for many passages may give a different view. All must be considered and weighed before making any assumptions as to the truth of the matter. As an example it says in many instances in the Bible that God is love. People therefore will use that as an excuse for their behaviour assuming that because God sent His only begotten Son to make atonement for our sins, all our sins are forgiven. They are indeed forgiven if we repent of them. Our lifestyles can be a reflection of our relationship with God through Jesus Christ or they can be an insult. If we knowingly continue in sin, against the will of God, there is no further atonement for those sins and we condemn ourselves. God is a loving Father to all mankind but He is a God who judges too. I read about homosexuality, bi-sexuality, lesbianism and deviant sexual activity which are not accepted as being wrong in the eyes of those who consider themselves to be of that persuasion. They assume that because it wasn’t their fault that they were born that way, which is in itself a debatable subject, that God accepts them when they live that way. He accepts them but not the things they do. It is one thing to be sexually attracted to the same-sex but another to actively indulge. God loves the sinner but hates the sin. The Bible is often used as proof that it isn’t wrong to love another person of the same-sex and it isn’t wrong to love another person but not in a sexual way. There are several verses in Scripture which show that God detests homosexual behaviour. It isn’t just sexuality either, there are many things that God detests and they are all written in His Word. Idolatry, fornication, mediums (as in fortune tellers and such), man-made festivals (and there are a few in the calendar year) and many other things which people tend to gloss over and forget. If you want the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth then why settle for anything less? I am a sinner, I get things wrong, I do not deserve salvation from a loving Father but * by grace I have been saved, through faith and this not from myself, I couldn’t earn it, not by works or anything I have done lest I should boast about such things*. No, it is the gift of God and it says so in His word. It is all down to a willingness to walk as He expects us to walk and to beg forgiveness when we get it wrong. Not by the way we think we should be walking, not by a misguided interpretation of the truth but by the real thing.

*Ephesians 2 v 8-9*

Shirley Anne

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Will she ever learn?

Posted by Shirley Anne on October 16, 2011

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I have just read one of my daily ‘words’ from Scripture the essence of which tell me that even though I may strive to be perfect in every way I know that I shall never attain perfection for as long as I live. The reading points out that I should be telling myself daily that I know I am not perfect but that I am better than I was before. A good philosophy to be sure. There are areas in my life though where I struggle to get better for I will forget the promises I make to myself and over-indulge. On Friday I spent the afternoon, late afternoon that is, at the pub. I sat there for a couple of hours watching people come and go whilst I was reading a newspaper and having a drink.  Eventually the pub filled to capacity but I remained seated and alone by choice.  Later I began to mingle and before long found myself in the company of friends. Drifting along with the conversations, meeting new people and generally having a good time robbed me of my sensibility and I ended up shall we say, slightly inebriated! Horror of horrors I hear you say but it is all so easy to forget one’s promises not to get drunk when one has had too much to drink and therein lies the danger. Switching to soft drinks is the better solution and one that I should endeavour to embrace more often. Let’s hope I eventually learn my lesson and be a little more responsible in future. I arrived home in the early hours after the fifteen minute walk from the pub and was so hungry I rustled up a meal. Still not tired after my escapade I took to surfing the Web and posted comments on other folks blogs. I was beginning to doze off when I made my way upstairs at five in the morning! I remember looking at the clock at five-thirty and then fell asleep, in the correct attire for the occasion I might add and not in my normal clothes! I awoke at ten fully refreshed and most definitely not with a hang-over. I drink far too much water after drinking alcohol to end up with a splitting morning-after headache. Dehydration or lack of it is something I have under complete control. It only remains for me to keep myself under control when out enjoying myself.

Shirley Anne

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The lady who loved herself

Posted by Shirley Anne on October 11, 2011

Something from my childhood…………

The lady who loved herself

Children have such a vivid imagination and can dream up things and make believe that they are true. They can also be very cruel in their treatment of others and in the observations that they make about them. To a child, often black is black and white is white. There is no in between sometimes. Everything has to conform and anything, even slightly different is quickly spotted and therefore open to ridicule. We would dismiss this as normal human behaviour because I suppose we have all been guilty of acting this way when we were young. Most children will grow up to be sensible adults, making educated assessments of most things and situations. As adults they will have developed the ability to not only see black and white but all the in between shades of grey too. They will realise, with the advantage of experience, that things cannot always be taken at face value because often there is a reason for things not appearing as perhaps they think they should. Of course even adults can be unaccepting of many things that they consider out of the ordinary or not conforming to accepted standards, standards imposed by society. It is the demonstation of rejection and discrimination which is intimidating to the recipient and can lead to unfortunate situations. Homophobia is a form of this kind of behaviour.

 

As young children, my brother, sisters and I would often kneel on chairs and look out of the window overlooking the main street in front of our little house. Our youngest brother had not been born at that time. It was just the four of us. We would spend hours gazing out into the street which was quite busy at times as it was one of the main arterial roads out of the city centre less than a mile away. We would see the old tram cars, buses, lorries and a few private cars too. Many people walked back and forth in front of our window on regular trips in and out of town. We got to know a few of them by sight. On Sunday mornings we would see two women walking past. First down the street, presumably into town and later again up the hill past our window, presumably returning home. Both ladies, I will call them ladies because of the way they were dressed, always immaculate and well groomed in the fashionable clothes of the day. So it seemed to us anyhow but they did stand out from the majority of the women we ever saw. One lady appeared to be much older and smaller in height than her companion who I guess must have been around thirty years of age. It was the younger of the two who I remember most vividly. She was usually dressed in a brown tailored skirt suit, trousers for women were not fashionable in those days, high heeled shoes, carrying a matching brown bag and wearing a wide brimmed hat sometimes with a feather in it. The hat also had an open mesh veil which covered her face. I will always remember her face. It was as smooth as porcelain but heavily covered in make-up and she had bright red lipstick on her full lips. She wore pearl earrings and a pearl necklace was draped around her neck. She often had a fox fur stole around her shoulders which many women still wore occasionally. She always looked immaculate, a perfect model, a perfect woman. I secretly loved seeing her and wondered if I would ever be able to wear clothes like hers and full make-up. I must have been about eight years old, maybe a bit younger when I first saw her. She walked arm in arm with her older companion who we thought of as her mother and we never did see them apart. We felt as children that because this lady was always so well groomed and elegantly dressed she must have thought herself very important and was trying to say to all who saw her, ‘Look at me, I am so beautiful and lovely’. Well, that is the impression she gave to us as young children and I for one really did think she was worthy of the claim. It was because we felt she thought herself as lovely that we beagan to call her ‘The Lady who loves herself’, amongst ourselves that is. If one of us happened to see her whilst we were looking out of that window we would shout to the others, ‘Come quickly, here’s the lady who loves herself’ and we would all rush to the window to see her. She never once glanced in our direction but always looked straight ahead.

 

It was a few years later and I would be about fifteen or sixteen years old when ‘the lady who loves herself’ was the subject of a conversation. I remember reminiscing about the past with my mum when she told me the truth about those women. It appeared that the older of the two was the mother of the younger lady and that this lady was in fact a man! I had a feeling of excitement when mum told me that because it demonstrated that I could do the same. I could dress as a woman and be passable. Really though, I wanted more than that. I have to admit my disbelief at what mum had told me but she was insistant so I said no more on the subject and ‘the lady who loved herslf’ was never mentioned again.

 

As children we made fun of that lady but we had no idea of the facts and perhaps that was just as well because things could have been worse. That is how children are, they don’t reason that they are hurting someone’s feelings, it is all just fun to them. Most adults would find the subject intriguing and would express their feelings in closeted conversation but some would be openly disapproving. It is difficult being the exception in the normal scheme of things. I felt this way for many years and it was often reflected even if covertly sometimes in my habits and attitude to things in my life. Am I now ‘the woman who loves herself’? In a way I am. I am happy in myself now more than I have ever been.

Shirley Anne

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Rogue traders and vulnerable people.

Posted by Shirley Anne on October 6, 2011

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You’ve seen the programmes on television, rogue traders seeking lots of money for doing very little work in return. Often these so-called traders are unqualified although some are qualified but choose to rip people off. The most vulnerable are the elderly but many other people can easily be fooled too. The reason that many get deceived is due to a lack of knowing what is involved in carrying out any repairs, if there are any required, how long they should normally take and at what cost. Fictitious scenarios proffered by rogue traders often lead gullible people into parting with vast sums of money without realising they are paying too much for work that has not even been carried out. I went to do a small job for an elderly lady recently and it involved changing a faulty light fitting in her bathroom. She needed a new fitting and I had to purchase one for her. She offered me money which I declined to take explaining that wasn’t the way I operated. I would purchase a suitable fitting and fit it for her. Then, and only then would I expect to be paid but only if she was happy with my work. The point is this, she was ready to part with her money before the job was done and so many older folk are vulnerable in this way. Unscrupulous persons take advantage of this and leave many of the elderly robbed of their money. It is a sign of the times. In years past people were more trustworthy by and large although not everyone was but today there seem to be far more rogues about who do not care how they obtain their money as long as they don’t have to work for it. I enjoy watching programs where these despicable rogues are caught in the act but unfortunately they all seem to escape justice and go on to rob more people of their hard-earned cash.

Shirley Anne

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Careful what you say

Posted by Shirley Anne on September 28, 2011

· Tancredo Neves Did not take office

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DID YOU KNOW THESE FACTS?

I SURE DIDNT TILL NOW

Death is certain but the Bible speaks about untimely death!

Make a personal reflection about this…..

Very interesting, read until the end…..

It is written in the Bible (Galatians 6:7):

‘Be not deceived; God is not mocked:

for whatsoever a man sow,

that shall he also reap.

Here are some men and women
who mocked God :

John Lennon (Singer):
Some years before, during his interview with an American Magazine, he said:
‘Christianity will end, it will disappear.
I do not have to argue about
that. I am certain.
Jesus was ok, but his subjects were too simple, today we are more famous than Him’ (1966).

Lennon, after saying that the Beatles were more famous than Jesus Christ, was shot six times.

Tancredo Neves (President of Brazil ):

During the Presidential campaign, he said if he got 500,000 votes from his party, not even God would remove him from Presidency.

Sure he got the votes, but he got sick a day before being made President, then he died.

Cazuza (Bi-sexual Brazilian composer, singer and poet):

During A show in Canecio ( Rio de Janeiro ),
while smoking his cigarette, he puffed out some smoke into the air and said: ‘God, that’s for you.’

He died at the age of 32 of LUNG CANCER in a horrible manner.

The man who built the Titanic

After the construction of Titanic, a reporter asked him how safe the Titanic would be.
With an ironic tone he said:
‘Not even God can sink it’

The result: I think you all know what happened to the Titanic

Marilyn Monroe (Actress)

She was visited by Billy Graham during a presentation of a show.
He said the Spirit of God had sent him to preach to her.
After hearing what the Preacher had to say, she said:
‘I don’t need your Jesus’.

A week later, she was found dead in her apartment

Bon Scott (Singer)
The ex-vocalist of the AC/DC. On one of his 1979 songs he sang:

‘Don’t stop me; I’m going down all the way, down the highway to hell’.

On the 19th of February 1980, Bon Scott was found dead, he had been choked by his own vomit.

Campinas (IN 2005)

In Campinas , Brazil a group of friends, drunk, went to pick up a friend…..
The mother accompanied her to the car and was so worried about the drunkenness of her friends and she said to the daughter holding her hand, who was already seated in the car:
‘My Daughter, Go With God And May He Protect You.’
She responded: ‘Only If He (God) Travels In The Trunk, Cause Inside Here…..It’s Already Full ‘
Hours later, news came by that they had been involved in a fatal accident, everyone had died,
The car could not be recognized what type of car it had been, but surprisingly, the trunk was intact.
The police said there was no way the trunk could have remained intact. To their surprise, inside the trunk was a crate of eggs, none was broken

Christine Hewitt (Jamaican Journalist and entertainer)
said the Bible (Word of God) was the worst book ever written.

In June 2006 she was found burnt beyond recognition in her motor vehicle.

Many more important people have forgotten that there is no other name that was given so much authority as the name of Jesus.

Many have died, but only Jesus died and rose again, and he is still alive.

‘Jesus’

PS: If it was a joke, you would have sent it to everyone.
So are you going to have courage to send this?.

Jesus said

‘If you are embarrassed about me,
I will also be embarrassed about you before my father.’

Just repeat this prayer and see how God moves!!

‘Lord, I love you and I need you, come into my heart, and bless me, my family, my home, and my friends, in Jesus’ name. Amen.’

Then go tell others…………..

Shirley Anne

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Clean sweep

Posted by Shirley Anne on September 27, 2011

When I was at the doctor’s surgery last week there was a guy in the car park carrying out a valet on a vehicle owned by one of the staff. He was doing it when I arrived and was still doing it half an hour later. I chatted with him and found out that he had suffered a couple of heart attacks and now cleans vehicles instead of his previous job which I didn’t get a chance to ask about. He was starting afresh in life, having a clean sweep as it were. I asked him what he would charge me for cleaning the cab of my van, which is like having half the interior of a large saloon car cleaned. The outside doesn’t need cleaning and in any case I do that myself in about twenty minutes and the carriage area, that is were all my electrical stuff is stored gets a clean out once a year by myself. He told me he would charge £20 which includes shampooing the carpets and seats. He is coming this morning (Tuesday) to do the job.

 Every so often I have a clean-out of my bedroom and in other rooms of the house (although to a lesser extent). I think it is a good idea to have a good clean-out every so often. It is quite amazing what rubbish I find I have accumulated after a short time. My office, that is the room I use for an office, gets cleaned of out-of-date paperwork, invoices etc. although I have to keep the last five years worth of documents for tax purposes. It still leaves a lot of paper to store away. Cardboard boxes keep it under control. When I look back at my life it has always been one in which I have regularly had a clean sweep because it has always been necessary!

Shirley Anne

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Sick people

Posted by Shirley Anne on September 17, 2011

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I was reading a newspaper in the pub a day or so back and there was a picture of a young woman showing her face after months of facial reconstruction surgery, most of it skin grafts. As with most newspapers the main story was to be found on one of the inside pages so I turned to them to read her story. Last year she had broken off her involvement with her then boyfriend but soon after he called to see her and was trying to force his attentions on her. She was having none of it and told him so. A little while later she was out and about in town and crossing a road when someone approached her and threw the contents of a jar he was carrying into her face. It was acid. She ran screaming and traumatized into a local café straight into their kitchen and frantically washed her face in water. It was too late, she had been left horribly disfigured. She had prospects in the modelling world but now all her hopes had been dashed by that one horrendous attack on her person. It appears that her estranged boyfriend had paid someone to carry out the attack. They, I believe are now in gaol. The pictures of the young woman show her face before the attack, after the attack and after surgery. The last photograph looks remarkably like the first and it shows how well her treatment went. I cannot understand why anyone could be so evil as to carry out such an attack on another human being, or any living creature for that matter but it seems that some people just don’t take the time to think or else they simply have no regard for other people. One thing I notice about it all is how little the guy must have loved her to have resorted to such a depraved act.  There are some sick people in the world!

Shirley Anne

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Where’s my axe?

Posted by Shirley Anne on September 11, 2011

Agree To Disagree

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I’ve never been a person who likes to blow her own trumpet unless I am joking with family or friends. I have never seen the need to argue too much about my corner of the world, my life, my problems, my transition or anything else. Some people have a passion, an urge to make a loud noise to put over their views. I have no axe to grind, I don’t need to prove anything to anyone. Neither do I need to justify who I am. In regard to my status, my beliefs or anything about me, in that respect, again I have nothing to shout about. I can understand why some folk are militant when it comes down to the rights of an individual in Society for instance but there are many ways to slice a cake and being militant is only one of those ways and not always the best way. Of course it doesn’t necessarily follow that having a passion for something makes it morally valid or acceptable and folk can shout as loud as they like about an issue but that in itself changes nothing. We are a planet of people of all different backgrounds, cultures, beliefs, attitudes and that in itself becomes a stumbling block to any universal acceptance of one another. There will always be dissidents in this world unless all are united under one banner, even then friction will still exist. Simply put, we have to just agree to disagree, live and let live and get on with our own existence. As mortal beings who generally live less than a century we sometimes waste far too much time rocking the boat. We are here but for a short time, why not enjoy it and live in peace? Why all the hassle? Why all the hatred? Why all the axe grinding? What does it achieve? Some people make a nuisance of themselves and for what reason? They will return from whence they came, they will cease to exist just like the rest of us. Make it known that you have an opinion, like I do on here, but leave it at that. Put down the axe, you’ll only hurt yourself if you don’t!

Shirley Anne

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Coercion?

Posted by Shirley Anne on August 31, 2011

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Perhaps that is too strong a word but do you ever think that we in Society are being coerced into doing things, buying things and generally forced to ‘go with the flow’? I am well aware that people think themselves free spirits and they choose their own lifestyles, they make their own choices in life but do they really? Modern society is a commercial machine, we cannot live in todays modern world without being part of that machinery. We are constantly under pressure, albeit mostly subtle pressure to buy into the system. The latest phones, computers, televisions, gaming machines, electrical equipment, processed foodstuffs, clothes, holidays, cars and many other things are temptingly presented before us. The list is endless and we pick our way through the day either avoiding the temptation or falling in line with it all. The choices we have to make are limited to what society has to offer but society is forever relentlessly pushing forward and many find it a struggle keeping up. Those who prefer to mark time fall back and fall out of the race, older folk especially don’t bother with many of the new ideas and developments and still remain happy in their own little world. I have often said that I would be happy just to get off the treadmill of ‘progress’ and stand still only taking brief rides on the ‘merry-go-round’. To some extent I think I manage that. I don’t buy into the latest technology just for the sake of it but there comes a time when the latest technology is the only technology available so I have to buy it. My phone is a good example. It can do many things but only gets used as a phone. I have a washing machine, which I have to admit is far more reliable than some I have purchased in the past, that has many programs built-in to it but they seldom, if ever, get used. In fact the only changes I make in using it are whether I want to wash a full load or just a small load. All the other settings I generally leave alone. I could go to the supermarket and buy all sorts of food but each week my fridge is filled with the same stuff, the vegetable rack has the same vegetables in it and so on. Much of what is produced these days isn’t necessary. I’m all for variety but not the amount of variety that the food manufacturing industry think we all need. Life could be a lot simpler and I think that if nothing was to change the course of civilization in the future things will only get more complicated. So, you may think that your choices in life are totally yours to make but they are limited to what society has to offer.

Shirley Anne

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Bert and Ernie!

Posted by Shirley Anne on August 14, 2011

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I have been following a thread concerning the proposed ‘marriage’ of two Muppet characters from Sesame Street. The characters themselves are presented as two males who happen to be friends. Whether it is suggested that they live together I am not sure, Sesame Street isn’t exactly on my viewing list these days. The program is meant for pre-school aged children. It appears that some people want to promote the fact that these two characters are ‘gay’, that is homosexual to give the condition its proper name whilst at the same time promoting the idea that this is quite normal behaviour. They see this as an opportunity to teach children about the wrongs of homophobia but they are also trying to instill behavioural ideas in their little heads that are contrary to the teachings of Scripture. No-one it seems is interested in God these days. As a Christian, a believer in God, I have to say that it isn’t right in Gods eyes to practice homosexuality. I see arguments from both sides, the for and the against but many on both sides are missing the point. It isn’t about being homosexual that we should condemn people or shy away from them or hate them. We are called to love one another, whoever and whatever they may be. No, it isn’t the condition at all, it’s the practice, the execution of perverted thoughts that offend God and it is for this reason as Christians we should make a stand against such things. Love the person but hate the sin, help the person in love without condoning what they do. To turn a blind eye to what this depraved world gets up to is tantamount to condoning the evil and an offence to our Lord God. Let Bert and Ernie remain good friends and leave all this nonsense about marriage alone. It is a children’s program after all. I read yesterday that the series producers made a statement that Bert And Ernie were just friends and are symbols to show children that people can get along with other people even with their differences. They maintain that the two characters are not meant to be gay! Common sense prevails!

Shirley Anne

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What would you change?

Posted by Shirley Anne on August 4, 2011

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Ok you are sitting there in front of God (bear with me) because your life has ended and you wonder what is going to happen. You’ve heard stories about heaven and hell, the lake of burning sulphur and the devil standing there with fork in hand waiting for your arrival and you are terrified! No, this isn’t about religion or salvation but God surprises you by giving you another shot at life and you find yourself back on earth, not as an infant and not as an adult but as a youth who is a little bit wise and open to new things. Realising that you have been given another chance but forgetting who gave it to you or why, what do you do?

Looking back over your former life you see areas that you feel guilty about, people you’ve hurt along the way, things you’ve done but now regret. Maybe you see missed opportunities or bad dealings in business affairs, wrong choices in vocation or lifestyle and this time you feel you’ll not make the same mistakes again.

Think about your life and what you might change about it given the chance. What would you change? Having thought about what you might have changed are there areas that you still have time to change and if so, why don’t you do it? What is holding you back?

Shirley Anne

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Why?

Posted by Shirley Anne on July 29, 2011

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I was watching a program on television about someone walking forgotten paths around the countryside. This particular walk was in the Highlands of Scotland on a no longer existing railway route through the hills and valleys around the Lochs in the area. The walk was being done by a woman and for part of the way she was being accompanied by a local older man. He was dressed in a kilt and was explaining his interest in the area, his family connections and where his ancestors had been buried. He mentioned that he intended to be buried in the same place and pointed to his chosen spot. The woman remarked that it was a nice place to be buried with all that wonderful scenery about. Now this is where it gets a bit silly. What difference does it make to a dead person where they are buried? They will not be able to enjoy the place. They will not be able to see it, smell it or touch it, they will be dead! They will know nothing, they will be no more. I cannot understand why people think this way, especially as most people are quite intelligent. It is illogical to think that wherever you are buried when dead makes any difference at all. A similar thing happens when people insist on visiting the remains of deceased loved ones to ‘chat’ with them! They mutter words into thin air over a grave or place where ashes are buried and leave wreaths or some flowers as a token gesture. Some go to great lengths to tidy up the grave as if it makes any difference to the bones lying beneath the sods! Some will say that it makes them feel better when they do these things and they are acting out of respect for the deceased. The shame is that the deceased doesn’t even know what is going on and anything they do has no affect on them. What part of ‘deceased’ don’t people understand? In reality it is far better to love the person whilst they are alive, pay them respect whilst they live because when they are dead it is too late! If you love someone, show them. Don’t wait until they are dead before letting them know for they will not be able to hear you.

Shirley Anne

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Not quite!

Posted by Shirley Anne on July 13, 2011

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So Tuesday was going to be harder than Monday, it had to be, I did almost nothing on Monday! When I went to work I had a rough idea of what was entailed but not an exact knowledge. I was prepared for work, I was feeling much, much better and I knew I would be alright. Did I tell you that E likes to run over walls with her car? If you look at one of my earlier posts, a few weeks ago, I posted a picture showing the older garage at the right of the house. To the left of the garage is a wall which slopes down to ground level over the last few feet. My van is parked in that garage overnight so I had to pass the wall to get to it. The first thing I noticed was the bottom two bricks had been dislodged and moved about a foot from the wall. Now E has always parked her car in front of the shrubbery to the left of that wall. She drives into the driveway and heads for the garage then reverses back around the wall to park ready to drive off by turning right, out of the driveway. She must have driven over the bottom two bricks and loosened them. When I got back home at 2.00 after my job, I mentioned that she must have dislodged the bricks. She looked a bit perplexed, she hadn’t noticed that she had done that. It is a simple matter to reset the bricks and we do have a small amount of ready-mixed mortar so it isn’t a problem. Many times in the past I have suggested she not park quite so close to the shrubbery as there is plenty of room to do so. She might also have less spiders and cobwebs on her vehicle and possibly less scratches (from the shrubbery when the wind is high). The funniest thing is she didn’t know she’d run over the wall! Strangely enough, a couple of months ago we had various pieces of concrete and stone standing alongside the perimeter wall which is the wall on the right-hand-side of the garage. There was space in front of them (along the wall) to park a vehicle. Now at that time my van was parked in the garage as usual and as work was going on around the front of the house E decided to park her car in this space to keep it out-of-the-way although she could have parked it in front of the garage or even in it (that would have meant moving some stuff but the garage is built for two cars after all). I was behind her car whilst she parked it, ready to stop her from hitting the pile of concrete standing there. This I did but she wanted to manoeuvre the car more precisely. I was shouting stop, stop and banging on the back of the car for her to cease letting it creep any further backwards. Too late! She backed into the concrete and dented the skirt beneath the rear bumper. Fortunately it is a plastic skirt and it was easy to pop back into shape. she does crazy stuff like that sometimes! That’s probably one of the reasons I love her. Incidentally, I park my van in the garage by reversing it all the way from the street so that I can simply drive out in the morning, or any other time. I have yet to hit a brick wall though…LOL!
I got to my electrical job and the lady and I discussed her needs. All the work was in her bedroom, fitting extra power points but the job itself wasn’t all that easy to actually do. I spent four hours there and was quite tired when I’d finished. whilst the lady had gone to get some cash to pay me I walked up the road to where her mom lives, a mere 50 metres or so. I had done some work for her mom last year when she had employed this guy to do all sorts of general joinery and plumbing jobs. She had also asked him to do some alterations to the electrics upstairs but he made a mess of it (well he wasn’t an electrician and shouldn’t really have been doing it). My job had been to correct those mistakes. Later she told me that she had been stupid to allow him to fiddle with the electrics (what can I say?). Anyhow this time she was asking about installing a supply to a water feature in her front garden. I told her what she might expect depending on what materials and fittings came with the water feature and to buy what she wanted (from the reputable supplier she had chosen) and I would make a better assessment having seen what was involved. Personally I don’t think it will be difficult or expensive, quite the opposite and she will be happy about that!
At home, after a quick snack I fixed myself a drink, took my guitar onto the patio and sat playing random songs for an hour. I simply let the songs come into my head, a mixture of pop melodies, Christian songs and some of my own stuff. E had gone to her moms for an hour or two so I was left undisturbed. So the day wasn’t quite exactly as planned. I didn’t do any more work in the other garage (I was too tired!), the electrical job put paid to that. Now today?
Just a point of interest, that is of course if you are interested, many are not! Tuesday or to be precise 12th July (actual date is 11th July and in the old calendar 1st July) marks the anniversary of the Battle of the Boyne here in the UK (see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_the_Boyne ) and in Southport (as in a few towns and cities) there are marching bands dressed in their orange regalia who visit the town from places like Liverpool just down the coast. I remember every year walking into Liverpool where I lived as a youngster, to see them. Some feel these events are an excuse for drunkenness and violence and indeed that is often the result during the day so they are against them being held. It is also an excuse for religious hatred and bigotry between Catholics and Protestants. If you read the short history you will understand why this is so. One would think that to continue to celebrate an event that happened 321 years ago should now cease but in fact it seems to get stronger year by year! It appears that another brick has been put in the wall between Catholics and Protestants.
Shirley Anne

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Idol worship

Posted by Shirley Anne on July 11, 2011

The Adoration of the Golden Calf'

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Many people today worship idols but probably are unaware that they do. An idol is something that holds your attention sometimes at the expense of more important things. In fact always at the expense of more important things! Marriages and relationships break down, time is wasted on futile and non-essential things. For a season we indulge in our passions at the expense of a better life. Now you may be thinking, what exactly are these ‘idols’? Hobbies that take over all our time, hero-worship, these days usually defined as a favourite music band, a singer or a group, a football player or the whole team (probably more usual). Some people just cannot get enough information about their favourite idol and buy all the magazine literature there is just to get a glimpse of their lifestyles and live in a permanent state of awe. So called ‘stars’, ‘celebrities’ and people in the public eye strut about like they were something special compared to the rest of us mortals and people love it! There is nothing wrong with most of these things if taken very light-heartedly and not too seriously of course but the danger remains in spending too much of our own lives and time following after the exploits of others. Don’t we have lives of our own? There are other things too that can take up too much of our time, drink (alcohol), drugs and other unsavoury and unnecessary things for a happy life  and we should be especially careful in these matters. As a Christian I have to be very careful that I don’t spend time in ‘idol worship‘ at the expense of spending more time with God and the things He would have me do with my time. I have never been into ‘celebrities’, don’t have a favourite movie, book or author and things of that nature that I over-indulge myself with, in fact I only read non-fiction anyway. There are pleasures to be had in life of course and we shouldn’t eliminate everything that takes our time but we should consider the consequences of not doing so.

Shirley Anne

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