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Posted by Shirley Anne on January 18, 2012
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Psalm 32
Of David. A maskil.[a]
1 Blessed is the one whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered.
2Blessed is the one whose sin the LORD does not count against them and in whose spirit is no deceit.
3 When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long.
4 For day and night your hand was heavy on me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer.[b]
5Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the LORD.” And you forgave the guilt of my sin.
6 Therefore let all the faithful pray to you while you may be found; surely the rising of the mighty waters will not reach them.
7You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance.
8 I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.
9 Do not be like the horse or the mule, which have no understanding but must be controlled by bit and bridle or they will not come to you.
10Many are the woes of the wicked, but the LORD’s unfailing love surrounds the one who trusts in him.
11 Rejoice in the LORD and be glad, you righteous; sing, all you who are upright in heart!
Footnotes:
- Psalm 32:1 Title: Probably a literary or musical term
- Psalm 32:4 The Hebrew has Selah (a word of uncertain meaning) here and at the end of verses 5 and 7.
How great it is to be loved by the Lord my God, to know that my sins have been forgiven, even paid for. Without such a love and compassion I would be doomed. It is better to be a child of God and to be loved and forgiven by Him than to be outside of His forgiveness because of unbelief. Acts 4:12 Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.” That name is Jesus Christ.
Shirley Anne
- Truly Forgiven (cbnindiablogs.wordpress.com)
- How can we forgive and forget? (brendataggart.wordpress.com)
- Dim Sum – Deliverance! (ptl2010.com)
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Posted by Shirley Anne on January 11, 2012
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What does this four letter word mean to you? What is love? Love means many things to many people and the word is often used loosely to describe their affection, likes, affinity, friendship, kindness, consideration, attachment, kinship, passion, desire, fondness, predilection, adoration and other things. When the ancient Greeks spoke of love they had several different words to choose from but the English language has but the one and we have to discern the meaning of it when used. Why is it that we love things anyway? What is it about people that makes us love them? Objects can be loved but all that means is they give us pleasure in some way. With people though that rule doesn’t apply, we can love people without them having to love us in return. Yes, inanimate objects cannot love us in return either but then they are not capable of doing so whereas people are. With people however we can mean different things when we say we love them, it could be a sexual love, a brotherly or sisterly love, the love of a father or mother or for them. It could be a compassionate love or a spiritual love. Loving someone is not the same as liking them either. I like many people but I don’t love them in a personal way. I love people but I don’t like them all. There is the love of man and there is the love of God. One sometimes comes with conditions but the other hasn’t any. Disliking people usually means that we don’t like what they do rather than who they are as a person or it may mean we don’t like their attitudes and the way they live their lives but we can still love them. How about this love: ‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son, that whosoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting (eternal) life’. (John 3:16) Could you love the world in this way? Could you make such a sacrifice for all mankind? Of course you couldn’t because it isn’t in you to do that, it isn’t in any of us. Our form of love is sadly lacking in sincerity sometimes and it comes with preconditions when it really shouldn’t. This is what real love is like: 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 Corinthians 13 but read the whole chapter). As you can see our love lacks in these things quite often. How often has a loved one hurt us and we have felt wronged, had thought nasty thoughts? This world is sadly lacking real love and until we can learn to love properly the world will never change.
Shirley Anne
8 Love never fails.
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Posted by Shirley Anne on December 24, 2011
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Christmas eve and all is well. Nothing to do, nowhere to go, no-one to see. Quietly indulging in my red wine flicking between the television channels to see if there is anything worth watching, something that hasn’t anything at all to do with Christmas, very difficult at this time of year. I tire of the pressure that is imposed on us all, if we allow it of course. Monday morning and it will all be finished with, forgotten and stored away until next year. Folk will already be looking forward to their New Year celebrations and many will stay ‘in the party spirit’ for the whole intervening week between the two celebrations. Each to their own of course but it isn’t for me. It has been at least three weeks since I visited my pub and it will be another three weeks at least before I make another visit there. Hopefully all will have returned to normality by then. I am not really a party animal but I do like mixing with people and socialising over drinks and perhaps the dinner table. I lead pretty much a quiet life and enjoy the simpler things. As I write this (on Thursday….well I said I wanted a break from blogging) there has been no news regarding the arrival of my first grandchild but I will post something when it happens. I won’t be wishing everyone a happy/merry Christmas/New Year but I do wish everyone to be happy in their lives, to love one another and do unto others as you would have them do unto you. May God bless you all.
Shirley Anne
PS….I got a phone call which got me out of bed in order to reconnect an electrical supply for someone 12 miles away. Somehow I knew that was going to happen, a premonition, a vision if you like but I knew it was going to happen. The strange thing is I get these visions quite often lately. The supply was re-instated and all is well.
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Posted by Shirley Anne on December 12, 2011
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I guess I have been in love a few times in my life and in some of those times I loved the person for who they were too. There is a difference between being in love and loving someone of course but sometimes the both are true at the same time. I was in love with my first girlfriend but I didn’t get to know her that well to say that I loved her as a person, we split up before that could happen. When I met my wife I was in love with her but I also loved her. Now that we are divorced I still love her very much, more than she perhaps knows but I am not in love with her. There have been other people who I fell in love with but didn’t love them simply because I didn’t get to know them for long enough. In reality I love all people but that love is completely different from loving them on a personal level, it is a love borne out of my love for God and His creation. Yes, I am in love with my maker and I also love my maker. This kind of love never fails because God never fails in loving me. It is the same love He has for you too. It is a love that has no comparison to the kind of love we experience with other people. It is pure love, without blemish, without fault, totally unselfish, totally reliable, totally faithful. There is no earthly love to match the love of God. Why God even gave us His Son for the forgiveness of our sins! How wonderful, how marvellous is my God’s love for me! How can I not love Him? He who gave me life, He who loves me and sacrificed His only Son deserves to be loved in return. It doesn’t matter whether you believe in God or not, it doesn’t diminish His love for you. How amazing is that? Yes, I am in love and it makes me very happy indeed.
Shirley Anne
- Holiness of God and His Love (anotherchristianblog.org)
- Ima-obong (pritihorangereflections.wordpress.com)
- God’s Love Flows (learning2hear.com)
- “The Ultimate Giver of Love” (pjsprayerline.blogspot.com)
- God’s Love (victorychurch2943.wordpress.com)
- Questions From Bible Study: How do I know God loves me? (ptl2010.com)
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Posted by Shirley Anne on November 25, 2011
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I used to be a person who despised watching soap operas on television but in more recent times I find myself watching one or two of them. The most striking thing I notice in these programs is the way they portray how people deal with each other, more specifically how they treat each other. They say that soap operas are not true to life but in fact they are very much true to life. Admittedly much is crammed into the episodes and much is going on between the characters but when we analyse it all we can see that the things that go on are the same things that most of us experience or have experienced in our own lives. I wonder why people treat other people the way they do. Some people get along with almost anyone, others find it difficult to get along with anyone at all. People can be horrible toward some and yet at the same time be nice to others. Why are people horrible toward others and what pleasure do they get out of putting another down? As human beings we can be both nasty and kind, selfish and unselfish and we are selective in which is dealt to whom. What makes us hate one person and like another, be kind to one person and leave another out of it? If we analyse our behaviour we might find that we treat others in a way which is dependent on what we might gain from it. If someone is different from us we are often cautious in dealing with them but all the time we are looking to see what effect they will have upon us, whether beneficial or otherwise. We may not think about these things, they just come naturally. So when I look at soap operas do I see aspects of my own personality being portrayed or do I feel that I act in a completely different way? Do we think we have faults that should be worked upon or do we feel we are not behaving badly? Do we really treat our neighbours as we would have them treat us? Do we really love as we ought or do we select whom we should treat preferentially?
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on November 2, 2011
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Another repeat on television of the Bridget Jones Diaries was aired on television on Friday last. This one was The Edge of Reason. I simply had to watch it because Bridget is a heroine of mine. I like the actress too, Renée Zelweger. She epitomizes what I think is a real woman, down to earth, nothing false, maybe a little zany but absolutely adorable. Too many women in my mind are not real in the sense that they act naturally. Bridget shows us that being just ones’ self is always enough. It may sound like I have lesbian tendencies here but if that was a fact then I could do no better than to fall in love with Bridget but I fear it would be in vain as she rejected such advances in the film! Wonderful! Throughout the film I found myself laughing and crying with her and feeling all the things that she was experiencing in her struggle to create an impression. The very fact that she was undergoing many embarrassing situations made her all the more attractive. I particularly enjoy the scenes where she is imprisoned and walks in with a stiff upper lip declaring that she is a British journalist but no-one is taking any notice of her. Eventually she wins them over and becomes the most popular inmate in the prison! Throughout the film she is battling with two aspects of her morality, enjoying the advances of on the one hand a deeply loving and romantic lover (Colin Firth) and struggling with the advances of another a guy who seemingly just wants to bed her (Hugh Grant). She is attracted to them both but it is more because she wants the attention than anything else. It made no difference that I had seen the film a few times previously, I was still thrilled with it. In many ways I am like Bridget, a little zany, a little quirky but still lovable in my own way, or at least that’s what I am told. Take my local pub for instance, whenever I am absent for a long time people ask where I have been and I have been told that I am loved by some of the regulars there, which is so nice to hear. I too struggle in my life just as Bridget does but maybe for different reasons, or maybe not. All I ever wanted in life was to be loved and accepted and I guess that was the thrust in Bridget’s story. I will call it The Bridget Jones Syndrome and I believe many of us have it.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on August 20, 2011
Some time back I placed the Social Vibe widget here on my front page on the left to be precise and got little response so occasionally I make a request to my readers and invite them to spend just two minutes (or less) to click on the widget and answer a couple of questions. There is no cost whatsoever involved save the small amount of time it takes out of your day and in doing this you help feed a hungry child somewhere in the world. So I ask, if you’ve got a spare two minutes please consider clicking on the widget. Thank you…
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on August 1, 2011
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Today is the tomorrow of yesterday and the beginning of new things. All dreams and visions, all desires and ambitions begin today if you allow it. That small word ‘if’ is one of the biggest words in the English vocabulary. Things can only happen if you wish them to and if you are motivated for them to come about. Dreams remain dreams unless acted upon. When we are born we know nothing and each new day brings us new experiences and knowledge. As we grow older we become more set in our ways and less open to change and it demands discipline of us to change when it is necessary. Some unfortunately do not have that discipline nor the desire to change, even if that change is for the better.
Why am I saying all this? Well these last two days at home have been lonely for me. Oh yes, I enjoyed listening to jazz, getting drunk on whisky, playing guitar and relaxing in the warmth of the day on Saturday. It is no fun when life is spent alone because the one you live with act the way they do sometimes. Sunday was a day of almost complete silence. I got up late, missed breakfast and mowed the lawn. Returning indoors I prepared a roast dinner and E and I sat eating it, in silence. It is difficult living with someone like E who is stubborn in the extreme and has an introverted view on life, who can be very spiteful at times, uncaring and insensitive. For half of our thirty-year marriage life with her was unbearable at times but I stuck it out because I loved her so much. Much of what I write here is already on my blog pages above but I repeat these facts now because some things just haven’t changed. When we divorced it broke my heart and for a few years afterward the prospect of us living apart was heavy on my mind. I broke the ice and we began socializing together which led to us deciding to remain in this house together, because of this I spent a small fortune on the house so that in any event E could be comfortable if something was to happen to me. Personally I couldn’t care less about the house although it may not seem that way with all the things I write about doing in it! I do it all out of love for her. I have never discovered why E is the way she is even though I have known her for thirty nine and a half years. She remains stubborn and difficult to live with but tomorrow is another day. Tomorrow she may change, tomorrow she may realise the stupidity of her attitude, for her own sake. I hope so and pray.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on May 30, 2011
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How deep the Father’s love for us
How vast beyond all measure,
That He should give His only Son,
To make a wretch His treasure.
How great the pain of searing loss,
The Father turns His face away,
As wounds which mar the Chosen One
Bring many sons to glory.
Behold the man upon a cross,
My sin upon His shoulders;
Ashamed, I hear the mocking voice
Call out among the scoffers.
It was my sin that held Him there
Until it was accomplished;
His dying breath has brought me life
I know that it is finished.
I will not boast in anything,
No gifts, no power, no wisdom;
But I will boast in Jesus Christ,
His death and resurrection.
Why should I gain from His reward?
I cannot give an answer,
But this I know with all my heart,
His wounds have paid my ransom.
Stuart Townsend.
Copyright Kingsway’s Thankyou Music 1995
I am reminded every day just how much I am loved. I am loved with an everlasting love that will never die. This love is pure, not like an earthly love. No matter what I have done or how I behave this love remains faithful. How then can I deliberately ignore such a love and come against the one from whom it comes? I cannot. Oh yes, I will fail and I do every day. It is a lifelong struggle which I am forced to undertake each day but I do it willingly and strive to correct my shortcomings. God, my God, the Father of all Creation shows His love for me in this, ’While we were still sinners, Christ died for us’. (Romans 5:8). Christ did not die for those who already loved him but he died for sinners, of which I am one. It is hard to understand such a love for in this world we never experience anything like it. Everyone can know the love God has for them. Do you know that love?
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on April 25, 2011
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I was sitting in the greenhouse with my back to the sun looking toward the corner of the garden a couple of metres away. The path to the greenhouse runs behind a holly tree which gives some shade to the area whilst on the other side of the path another small tree gives some shade too. A large sycamore tree grows in the corner where the two perimeter walls meet. It is a very well established tree something like 40 to 60 years old, perhaps even older. The ground beneath has a couple of other, more ornamental trees and nearby is a young oak tree. The soil is piled up somewhat from when we dug out the ground to lay the concrete base for the greenhouse and the path leading to it. Bluebell plants are everywhere and to be frank, although E hates them, I like them but they do take over if you let them. Plants will grow where the conditions suit them and struggle when they are not. As I was sitting there my eyes began to roam whilst I surveyed the scene. E has a few containers temporarily dotted along the perimeter path around the lawn with plants in them, some contain daffodils and tulips, others have small shrubs in them but one had fern inside. Now I like fern, I think it is a lovely plant and seemingly the species has been around for millions of years. Where we used to live there were wooded areas close by, in fact the place is a red squirrel reserve. It is mainly populated with spruce and pine trees with a few varieties of deciduous trees here and there and there are large areas that are carpeted with fern. The plant seems to thrive in a dappled environment. So putting two and two together I decided to replant our little fern in the sheltered spot behind the greenhouse and beneath the trees. It will probably thrive there whilst providing a nice green backdrop throughout the year. I got to thinking about why it is that I so much like ferns or why I like so many other things in life. Why am I attracted to certain things? Why do I gravitate toward some things in preference to others? Everyone is different and each will no doubt have similar preferences, perhaps not really knowing why. Why for instance do I like the colour green in preference to other colours? Why am I attracted to things associated with the North West, that is the compass location of a land? Why do I imagine fairies and elves living in little sheltered spots in gardens when I obviously don’t believe in fairies? It is all romanticism of course. I am sure there are things about us, mostly little quirks we have, that others are attracted to without being aware of it. I am a romantic person, very romantic in fact. It shows itself in me through my poetry and songs, my attitude to nature, people and life itself. I am also a level-headed person with my feet firmly placed on the ground, a practical and inquisitive person too! It is nice to be a romantic though because it makes me sensitive to the things around me, like the welfare of a poor little fern in my garden.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on March 17, 2011
When the Israelites were instructed to drive out all the nations of peoples resident in the land that God had given them, the promised land (symbolic of the heavenly promised land to all believers), they did not do as God had told them. Consequently those people who were allowed to remain became a thorn in their side. One of those people were the Philistines who were the ancestors of present day Palestinians. Surprise, surprise! Now those who are an enmity to God, who refuse to believe His existence will declare that He God, the one they don’t believe in, is not a loving God and they don’t want anything to do with such a God. Totally illogical reasoning to reject someone, not believing in their existence and then blaming them for something. You cannot place blame on something that doesn’t exist! I digress. God had a very good reason to give the instruction He did but because He wasn’t obeyed chaos and unrest resulted. God was using Israel as an example to the rest of His creation. The events in the Bible, the Old Testament, were real events but they represent a spiritual future, they were prophetic events that happened in history. Many of those prophecies have come to pass and the rest have yet to be fulfilled. When these things are revealed to unbelievers they are immediately rejected. That of course is bound to happen but it doesn’t mean prophecy is untrue. The blind are blind and cannot see.
As believers in God we must believe in what He says. We must take Him at His word. The problem is that even some believers do not do this. Certain things are wrong in Gods eyes and He tells us what they are in Scripture. Those who believe will listen but others only wish to hear what they want to hear. If God says that homosexuality is wrong then homosexuality is wrong! If God says that stealing is wrong the stealing is wrong! If God says that He hates mediums and spiritists then they must be wrong! Now because many secularists think these things are not wrong they will automatically disagree. A lesbian, a homosexual, a thief, a fortune-teller will all be against God else they don’t believe what He says. God does not hate these people, far from it! He loves them and only wishes they would turn to Him in repentance. It is not the person He hates, it is what they do! As Christians we should also not hate others nor come against them but at the same time we should witness and pray that they will see sense and turn to God. On a personal note here, I know many homosexuals, lesbians and bi-sexual people, a few, well shall we say, unsavoury characters. I do not hate any of them. I love them, I pray for them and I try to be a witness and an example to them. I see them as God sees them, lost but not knowing it.
In our modern society we have mixed races of people living together, people of different faiths and religions and of different political views. We make an attempt at living in harmony but it is destined to fail on all fronts. This is because we cannot love one another as God has instructed us to do. We simply cannot live in harmony because of our differences. This is one reason that God told the Israelites to drive out the nations before them. God knew that there would be unrest, bitterness and hatred but the Israelites were a stubborn people and would not listen, very much like people today, they just will not listen. There will be a day though, as prophesied, when ALL people will bow the knee before their God or be cast aside. In the meantime the secular world thinks it has the answers to all of society’s problems. It hasn’t and it never will. There is too much intolerance, bigotry, hatred, selfishness, homophobia of all kinds for anything in secular society to work. There is a form of stability but it teeters on a knife-edge. The only way is Gods way. The petulant unbeliever, who only wants everyone else to accept them as they are or because of what they are is automatically at enmity with those who object. If it is a religion then that religion is declared immoral, homophobic and even evil. However it isn’t the religion that is at fault, it is the few vociferous members who, not truly following after God, who are at fault. Religion should not be a tool for ‘secular Bible bashing‘. Gods love is the tool for that task.
For the love of God is how and why we should be living. Let evil reside with those who hate God.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on February 5, 2011
I wonder if you remember this song from the musical ‘Fiddler on the roof‘ made some years ago now? I was looking out of a front room window at home the other day looking at the sight of a cool Sun hidden behind the thin layer of clouds. It must have been exactly due south as it had reached the highest point in the sky. Directly beneath the sun is the house opposite ours and the sun was exactly positioned above it by a few degrees. It was only a matter of a few weeks ago that we couldn’t see the sun at its highest point in the day because it wasn’t high enough to see over the house. As we approach spring and then Summer the Sun will still be positioned directly above that house at its highest point although much higher in the sky and one hour later by our clocks as they go forward an hour in March. This song sprang to memory whilst I was looking at the cold Sun and it reminded me of days long since passed in my youth when the world seemed a totally different place. I began to think of the things of life, love, marriage, good times and how it used to be. It brought tears to my eyes knowing that all that is passed can never return and the world continues to turn. One day soon turns into the next, years seem to fly by and all we are left with are memories.
(Tevye)
Is this the little girl I carried?
Is this the little boy at play?
(Golde)
I don’t remember growing older
When did they?
(Tevye)
When did she get to be a beauty?
When did he grow to be so tall?
(Golde)
Wasn’t it yesterday
When they were small?
(Men)
Sunrise, sunset
Sunrise, sunset
Swiftly flow the days
Seedlings turn overnight to sunflowers
Blossoming even as we gaze
(Women)
Sunrise, sunset
Sunrise, sunset
Swiftly fly the years
One season following another
Laden with happiness and tears
(Tevye)
What words of wisdom can I give them?
How can I help to ease their way?
(Golde)
Now they must learn from one another
Day by day
(Perchik)
They look so natural together
(Hodel)
Just like two newlyweds should be
(Perchik & Hodel)
Is there a canopy in store for me?
(All)
Sunrise, sunset
Sunrise, sunset
Swiftly fly the years
One season following another
Laden with happiness and tears
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on January 26, 2011
Yesterday it rained. Sounds a bit daft does that statement I suppose, especially when it is Winter in England or any other time in England for that matter! I mention it because we have just been through quite a few days of dry and still weather, however, they say February is the wettest and usually the coldest month of the year and that is just around the corner. I welcome the rain at this time of year because whilst it is raining it isn’t snowing! Heavy rain prevents working in the garden though and I, that is E and I have lots to do out there over the next couple of months. On my free days from work I have the opportunity to do some of that work but not if it is raining. I can turn to jobs around the house for there are plenty of those to do also but the outside work is more important just now.
It’s raining in my heart too. When we write posts on our blogs some of us write about life’s troubles as they affect us personally. I tend not to do that usually but at the same time I could write volumes if I wished to, although if you read some of my poems you will see how life has been unkind to me at times. Many of those poems relate to personal experience. People reading my ramblings may be under the impression that all is always ‘hunky-dorey’ in my life when often it isn’t. I am not alone, most people have problems in their lives and I’m no exception. I put on a happy face to the world when often I am hurting inside. I hurt because E is a difficult person to live with at times but I still love her. I hurt because she needs salvation. I hurt because she is stubborn and inflexible and won’t listen to reason sometimes. I hurt when people hurt me but I don’t retaliate, I pray for them. I hurt because of the selfishness of some people. I hurt because of all the needless suffering on the world. I hurt because of the bigotry and hate towards others for no real reason. I hurt because of mans inhumanity to man………………It’s raining in my heart and I hurt inside.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on January 1, 2011
This year come 27th January I will have known E for 38 years and have lived with her for thirty-six and a half of them. We married 18 months after we met. Which means we know each other pretty well. I loved E from the beginning and that hasn’t changed despite all I have been through in our relationship. Oh there have been good times, wonderfully good times but there have been bad times too. Isn’t that the way for any marriage? I digress. Half-way through our marriage E became very ‘cold’ toward me and try as I might to resolve the problem it stayed that way. She would have good moments followed by bad ones and I was the recipient of her antagonism when she had these mood swings. There was no real reason for them, no medical reason that is. My live was often hell and I was treated like a leper sometimes. I persevered though because I loved her and felt sure she would see sense eventually. She didn’t and it led to our divorce. I had given up my whole life for her and denied myself a lifelong ambition to transition. I made up my mind to fully transition about six years before we divorced and did so three years before that event. For a while after the divorce we hardly spoke to each other but I couldn’t bear the atmosphere and did something about it. We had planned to sell up and move apart but those plans didn’t bear fruit and we agreed to stay together about three years ago. It works well and we get on very well now strangely enough. I have gone all out to please her and to give her what she wants, materially speaking. She knows that I love her, she has always known that, she has told me many times in the past. However she cannot stop treating me badly occasionally and I suppose I will never understand why. A few days ago she accused me of something, which wasn’t true by the way and I told her so and asked why she says such things. At this moment in time we are not speaking again! E has what you might call an abrasive side, she seems to delight in rubbing folk up the wrong way, she has a very short fuse too and is bad tempered! If you remember the old nursery rhyme, ‘when she was good, she was very, very good but when she was bad she was horrid’, that describes E to a ‘T’. The other morning I came down for breakfast and she was already up. She had finished breakfast and was watching the tv we have in the dining room. I wished her a good morning and she just grunted. I continued to prepare my breakfast whilst trying to chat with her. She didn’t wish to know. Why she is like that I have no idea. She wonders why I avoid her sometimes. Yesterday I treated myself to a few bottles of lager we have in the fridge and felt so miserable I decided to visit the pub. It was around nine in the evening and I had no intentions of staying there all night for the new year celebrations as I do not celebrate the occasion, I simply had to get out of the house for a while. The pub was packed with people enjoying themselves and I went straight to the bar and ordered my drink. Within minutes I had all sorts of people come up to me and give me a big hug, my friends. They asked why they hadn’t seen me there for a while. I made no excuses and told them I don’t bother going to the pub as often these days. They were all pleased to see me anyhow. I guess there must have been around thirty or forty hugs from my friends. After an hour or so I left and came back home. I’d had more drink than I wanted and was drunk! After a snack I went to bed and don’t remember much until six when I needed the toilet. I guess I was in bed by 11 o’clock and asleep by five past! I am having a rest today (sabbath) and intend to do nothing at all. E still isn’t speaking to me but I know that will change soon so I won’t press it. Peace on earth and goodwill toward all men (and women)? Yes but only when it suits some people it seems.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on December 27, 2010
I was watching some tv on Christmas day. I had very little else to do. During the programs of course I was obliged to listen to the adverts if I forgot to mute the sound. I hate adverts and don’t take note of the messages they are supposed to be relaying. Anyhow they are there I suppose through necessity. Today, the 27th, is the official date for Boxing Day here in the UK. Boxing Day usually follows directly after Christmas Day but because there was an intervening Sunday this year it got deferred to Monday. No matter. However, on Christmas day out came the adverts alerting us to the wonderful bargains to be had on Boxing Day. This year I suppose it is more relevent as our beloved government has decreed that the value-added-tax VAT (purchase tax) is increasing from 17.5% to 20% meaning that all purchases will now cost more. Personally I think all our monies should be given straight to the government so they can spend it all on more useless things like war. Anything we might want for ourselves would then be provided by them………..yeah in your dreams! They take so much from us and waste so much it is criminal. Getting back to adverts, wouldn’t you think they would give it a rest for at least the one day? No way Hosea! It shows me that this world rotates on money, its values are all wrong. Whilst it is important that economies need to be healthy, one day off shouldn’t make a difference, should it? Our world , that is the people living in it, have all their priorities in the wrong order. According to the song, the world rotates on love but this is far from the truth. This world lacks love as it lacks the truth. The first question that is asked by people is ‘What is the truth’? Well if they need to ask the question they obviously don’t know the answer. I will promote love as long as I have life and I have life as long as I know the truth and follow it. Give the adverts a rest for a day? No way! Well that is the way of things for those who lack an understanding……………..
Shirley Anne
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