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Posted by Shirley Anne on June 1, 2012
There is a war going on in the ranks of human beings and especially those who are Christians. The greatest problems we face as Christians in trying to witness to the unbeliever are generated by ourselves………….
The offices of The Gazette newspaper on Saint Catherine Street, Montreal, Canada. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
“But from everlasting to everlasting the LORD’s love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s children— with those who keep his covenant and remember to obey his precepts.” Psalm 103:17-18 NIV1984
Christianity in Transition and Karma (an article written in The Montreal Gazette recently by a friend of mine…..I pray for her daily)
With more than 1,000 people protesting in a demonstration on Sunday against a North Carolina pastor who made anti-gay comments last week, some of his 100 or so congregants applauded him in church, according to a report on msnbc.com. Apparently, though, leaders of other churches are trying to distance themselves from him, feeling that his outrageous statements will hurt their more moderate anti-gay efforts.
Sigh . . . When will all these folks understand that not everybody believes their Bible is the inspired work of a god and that their interpretations of it are relevant or realistic? Really, where do these folks get off thinking that they can impose their superstitious belief system on everybody else? Of course they have a right to believe what they want, but they simply should not have a right to use their beliefs to spread hate and discrimination. It’s obvious to me that much of Western society is in transition (there’s that word again). Many people have moved on from the superstitious belief system expounded by people like the North Carolina pastor who preaches fire and brimstone if you don’t believe what he does. But some haven’t moved on. Still, fundamentalists are not united on these issues — some are far more liberal than others. Those with extreme views are becoming more and more isolated, which is probably why their extreme comments go viral sometimes. Which is not to say the essential message of Christianity is lost or irrelevant. The bottom line has always been to love thy neighbours, regardless of who they might be. It’s the bottom line in most spiritual schools of thought — and those religious institutions that lose sight of it ultimately lose followers. Which explains why only 100 people are showing up in that North Carolina church while more than 1,000 were protesting against the pastor outside the Justice Center . . . Sounds like karmic justice to me.
Jillian
The great lost chord of modern civilization is forgetfulness of the fact in nature of universal brotherhood, which means not merely a sentimental or political brotherhood; it means that we are all of one common cosmic or spiritual origin, and that what affects one affects all . . . – G. de Purucker (end of article)
Whilst in some respects I understand what Jillian is saying I feel she is missing the point somewhat. Many of us will have heard about the North Carolina pastor who voiced such an unloving sermon and as a result will now thinking his opinions are those of the true Christian Church. They are most emphatically not! In her article Jillian agrees that and indicates that the main anti-gay movement within the Church has been harmed by what this pastor has said and I agree with her on that point. However the Christian message has never been one of hate thy neighbour, whether gay or not. Many Christians think that just because Scripture shows us that homosexuality is a sinful way of life that it gives them the right to judge and condemn participants. It doesn’t! Neither is it appropriate to marginalize people for believing in other things or making a stand against their rights to behave as they wish. A true Christian does not do these things. A true Christian reaches out in love whilst being a faithful witness for Christ Jesus. This means pointing people to what God is saying and what God is commanding from us all. Decisions on lifestyle and belief always should rest with the individual. Being a witness does not mean pushing the faith down the throats of unbelievers but it is a duty and a commandment to explain and deliver the Gospel message to non-believers. From a Christians point of view it should be as an encouragement for sinners to repent, not something to turn them further away!
Jillian mentions (quite correctly) that not everyone believes that The Bible is the inspired Word of God but what she should have said is that non-believers in God think that way. Christians believe it is, or SHOULD do. I read Jillian’s posts quite frequently and I have found her to be very caustic sometimes when writing some of her articles. Firstly, in this article, she appears to accuse all Christians of being ‘fundamentalists’ as if being a fundamentalist was wrong. It isn’t wrong for Christians cannot turn away from the fundamental teachings encompassed in Scripture, they either have to believe it is God’s Word or not. Some conflicts do arise in interpretation sometimes but the tenet of content is unaffected. Remember, fundamentalism isn’t an invitation nor a free ticket to stir up hatred and discord with non-believers. Secondly, Jillian renders Scripture and belief in the Faith as all superstitious nonsense. This is a personal and direct attack on the Christian faith and ultimately God. Personal opinions should be kept out of good journalism. Present the facts and let the people choose one way or the other. This should be the case in presenting The Gospel too and it would be wiser for all those ‘fundamentalists’ to consider that fact.
Jillian redeemed herself in her concluding remarks though recognising that what has been voiced by an over-zealous pastor is not what the Christian message is all about nor is it the same opinion of all people of the faith or anyone with an inkling of common sense and humanity. Love thy neighbour even if he has six heads four arms and is green-skinned!
The war is not between human beings. It is a spiritual war being waged out of our sight and it is a war for souls, lost souls who need redemption.
“But from everlasting to everlasting the LORD’s love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s children— with those who keep his covenant and remember to obey his precepts.” Psalm 103: 17-18 (NIV 1984). I just wish Christians would remember to obey his precepts and do all things in love as He commands, maybe then the unbeliever will respond to the Gospel.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on May 29, 2012
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Saturday was another very hot and sunny day. I got up early and went for a run on my treadmill. My treadmill is in one of the rooms in the cellar (basement) but so is the hot water and central heating boiler! As it is now warm every day the central heating is inoperative but the boiler still comes on to maintain a hot water supply to our storage tank upstairs. The room gets warm of course but not as warm as it does in the winter months when the boiler is running for many hours in the day. If it gets too hot I can open the door leading to the garden and it becomes much cooler. Anyhow I digress. I did my stint on the treadmill and then went out into the garden and sat on the patio to cool off. After returning indoors and getting dressed I had a late breakfast which doubled as my lunch. I had nothing to do in the afternoon so I raised the canopy over the table in the patio and sat there all afternoon drinking red wine and listening to the radio, switching between Radio 2 and Radio 1, later Classic FM. I don’t much listen to pop music these days but I needed cheering up. I quite enjoyed the old songs they had been playing and they brought back to mind some lovely memories of the days when I first heard them many years ago. I felt really happy and relaxed but at the same time a little lonely. The genre began to change from happy-clappy to romantic love songs and it was then that I found myself crying involuntarily in response to the words. I needed to go indoors to visit the toilet and discovered that E had left the house, probably to visit her mother and that left me alone with no-one else at home. It often happens of course and under normal circumstances it means nothing but at this time when I was feeling so lonely with no-one to talk to it made me feel even more so. A song by Brian Ferry was playing when I returned to the garden, a love song and then more love songs by other artists the names of whom escape me now as I write this on Sunday morning. I was now being reminded of the fact that I was a member of Sergeant Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band, a visitor to Heartbreak Hotel, a Lonely Girl (lonely and blue) and all alone in the big wide world. I made a call to one of my friends, Jane, whom I hadn’t seen for a couple of months and who now has moved to another part of the country. I just wanted to know how she was and that all was well with her. She is managing ok it seems which I am so grateful for as she hasn’t had an easy ride lately. It was later in the evening when another friend, Lotte, called to let me know when she will be coming to see me today (Sunday) when we will be driving somewhere for a meal together. We have lots to chat about as we haven’t seen each other for 14 months or so. She had been on an extended tour in the far east for three months and on her return was busy settling in to her old job with some extra responsibilities. She had been busy finding somewhere to live too, thankfully she found somewhere nice. It’s funny how friends and family drift apart sometimes but we all have our lives to live haven’t we? For me, friends are most important and I make every effort to maintain contact with them. Family are a different matter aren’t they? They say you can choose your friends but you cannot choose your family! I love them all though, family and friends alike whether they reciprocate or not. A friend to me is a friend for life, a family member a cherished blood relative I could never reject. As it is though I see very little of any of them and that is why I get lonely sometimes. So here’s to my family and my friends…..I love you all
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on April 27, 2012
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I’m too busy right now to see you,
I’ve too much to do today,
If only each day had more hours,
I might have some time left to play.
How is it that each precious moment
Is filled with our own selfish things
Not wishing to spend time with others,
Pursuing our own empty dreams?
For what is a life that is lonely
Bereft of companions and friends?
A schedule whose pages are empty,
Devoid of all meaning, it ends.
So make time and space for each other,
Defer things that stand in your way,
Live life to the fullest and savour,
Those friendships before it’s too late!
Copyright Shirley Anne 4 Dec 2002 Poem listed in My Poems 5 above
It isn’t my attitude to life but it does seem to be for others I know. Living in a community, amongst family and friends, if we have any, can be difficult at times. Everyone has an agenda or an excuse. Sometimes we don’t see the need others might have for us or maybe we think they get in the way of our plans. I mean what plans are so important that we don’t have time for others? Scripture tells us and we are told only too often by others that we should love our neighbour. That doesn’t just mean those living next-door but everyone else on this planet is our neighbour, anyone we come across in life is our neighbour. If we have no time for anyone else what are we living for? There are matters to which we must attend to obviously but they don’t take up our complete life do they? Take time for one another, bear each other’s burdens if we can. I speak as a Christian but the truth of the matter remains the same for everyone.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on April 17, 2012
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Many of us who have transitioned will be able to relate to what I am about to write and it isn’t unusual. We speak often about acceptance in our lives, whether others will be offended and thereby avoid us if we step out-of-the-way they perceive us to be, for whatever reason. The problem is that most people, if they were honest with themselves, finding anything out of the stereotypical to be difficult to handle. It is a lack of understanding on their part. People will question what we have done, even directly asking us why we did it as if perhaps we should not have done. They do not realise that transitioning isn’t something that is desired to have to undergo nor is it done on a whim, it is done out of necessity. Transsexual people are born that way. Transsexualism isn’t ‘learned’, it cannot be acquired by association, you either are transsexual or you are not. Being transsexual means being found in the wrong body and having to cope with that. We are expected to live out our lives in the gender others perceive us to be and not the gender we know we are. Often this is a life-long struggle which for some is never resolved, some even taking to suicide to escape the trauma. There are many Internet web sites where information about the condition can be found for those who want to understand. For those more fortunate, their gender issues have been resolved and they are now living in the gender they know is right for them, even to the point of going through gender re-assignment surgery. I prefer to say gender correction surgery for that is what it is. What people do not understand is that the persons themselves haven’t changed, they are still the same person they were at birth with all the same feelings and personality. We cannot change who we are inside, the package we come in may be wrong but the essence which is us will never change. If a child is born without a limb every effort is made to change that using prosthetic means. If a child is born with any other deformity the best efforts are made to ease their situation by use of surgery if possible. Transsexuals are no different except that their problem is gender specific and yet they are often looked upon with scorn. Transitioning is a hard thing to have to do but it isn’t the transitioning itself, it is the reaction and attitude of others which make it so. Those we thought loved us before we transitioned we now find that love has gone and we are ostracised. True love would not allow that to happen. People are afraid to support for fear of what others may say and that really is an excuse. The main problem is that people wish to be accepted and consequently allow the dictates of others to influence them to act contrary to their own feelings. Isn’t it better to support those we love despite what others may say? When my eldest son married I wasn’t invited. I know that was a difficult decision on his part and it wasn’t solely due to him or his wife it was the influence others had over them. My heart was broken at the time and other people told me that I should have gone at least to the church anyway, invited or not. Perhaps I should have done so. Now they have a daughter they plan to have her christened in August (something I don’t agree with but that is their decision) and I would like to attend the church service even if I wasn’t made welcome to the following social gathering but I fear that may not happen. I have been told who would resent my being there and it hurts me to know they would act that way. Some will be reacting because they find it unnatural to them, some will be reacting probably because I was expected to stay married whether I was happy or not (although divorce came later anyhow) and some profess to be Christians, how sad is that? How can they not show love and then expect God to condone their behaviour? So I hope my son and his wife defy the mean and hateful attitudes of others and show a love befitting their faith in God. I pray they will but time will tell.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on January 30, 2012
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Sounds easy doesn’t it? I want to challenge my readers to make someone happy this week, someone who perhaps isn’t close to you or someone who comes into your life for whatever reason. Some of my readers will be doing this already and probably without thinking about it, others may find it a challenge. Not everybody appreciates what we do for them I know but it shouldn’t stop us trying should it? I personally do not like surprises but I do like being treated well, that is respectably. Sometimes in my working day I get unexpected rewards, for example a bottle of wine over and above my fee. Little gestures like that are pleasant to receive and they do make me happy. It is nice to know that we are appreciated now and then. Making someone happy doesn’t have to be a well thought out event, indeed it is far better when we are spontaneous for then it is likely to be more sincere I feel. Small things go a long way. Be kind and considerate when out in the world and always be ready to help those in difficulty. A lot of people live out their lives aggressively and are often selfish with it too. Some never wish to ‘get involved’ in situations and others are quick to jump in and help. Having the right attitude to life and indeed to others makes for a better person in my estimation. I will go out into the world today and forget what I’ve written here but then I know I do not need to be reminded to be nice to others because it is in my nature to be that way. I know in my heart that I will be ready to make someone happy if the opportunity arises because it makes me feel better too! I am not suggesting to my readers that they are anything else but nice people. I only suggest they might remind themselves that they are. I hope all my readers have a happy and wonderful week and along the way make someone else feel happy too.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on January 11, 2012
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What does this four letter word mean to you? What is love? Love means many things to many people and the word is often used loosely to describe their affection, likes, affinity, friendship, kindness, consideration, attachment, kinship, passion, desire, fondness, predilection, adoration and other things. When the ancient Greeks spoke of love they had several different words to choose from but the English language has but the one and we have to discern the meaning of it when used. Why is it that we love things anyway? What is it about people that makes us love them? Objects can be loved but all that means is they give us pleasure in some way. With people though that rule doesn’t apply, we can love people without them having to love us in return. Yes, inanimate objects cannot love us in return either but then they are not capable of doing so whereas people are. With people however we can mean different things when we say we love them, it could be a sexual love, a brotherly or sisterly love, the love of a father or mother or for them. It could be a compassionate love or a spiritual love. Loving someone is not the same as liking them either. I like many people but I don’t love them in a personal way. I love people but I don’t like them all. There is the love of man and there is the love of God. One sometimes comes with conditions but the other hasn’t any. Disliking people usually means that we don’t like what they do rather than who they are as a person or it may mean we don’t like their attitudes and the way they live their lives but we can still love them. How about this love: ‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son, that whosoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting (eternal) life’. (John 3:16) Could you love the world in this way? Could you make such a sacrifice for all mankind? Of course you couldn’t because it isn’t in you to do that, it isn’t in any of us. Our form of love is sadly lacking in sincerity sometimes and it comes with preconditions when it really shouldn’t. This is what real love is like: 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 Corinthians 13 but read the whole chapter). As you can see our love lacks in these things quite often. How often has a loved one hurt us and we have felt wronged, had thought nasty thoughts? This world is sadly lacking real love and until we can learn to love properly the world will never change.
Shirley Anne
8 Love never fails.
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Posted by Shirley Anne on December 12, 2011
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I guess I have been in love a few times in my life and in some of those times I loved the person for who they were too. There is a difference between being in love and loving someone of course but sometimes the both are true at the same time. I was in love with my first girlfriend but I didn’t get to know her that well to say that I loved her as a person, we split up before that could happen. When I met my wife I was in love with her but I also loved her. Now that we are divorced I still love her very much, more than she perhaps knows but I am not in love with her. There have been other people who I fell in love with but didn’t love them simply because I didn’t get to know them for long enough. In reality I love all people but that love is completely different from loving them on a personal level, it is a love borne out of my love for God and His creation. Yes, I am in love with my maker and I also love my maker. This kind of love never fails because God never fails in loving me. It is the same love He has for you too. It is a love that has no comparison to the kind of love we experience with other people. It is pure love, without blemish, without fault, totally unselfish, totally reliable, totally faithful. There is no earthly love to match the love of God. Why God even gave us His Son for the forgiveness of our sins! How wonderful, how marvellous is my God’s love for me! How can I not love Him? He who gave me life, He who loves me and sacrificed His only Son deserves to be loved in return. It doesn’t matter whether you believe in God or not, it doesn’t diminish His love for you. How amazing is that? Yes, I am in love and it makes me very happy indeed.
Shirley Anne
- Holiness of God and His Love (anotherchristianblog.org)
- Ima-obong (pritihorangereflections.wordpress.com)
- God’s Love Flows (learning2hear.com)
- “The Ultimate Giver of Love” (pjsprayerline.blogspot.com)
- God’s Love (victorychurch2943.wordpress.com)
- Questions From Bible Study: How do I know God loves me? (ptl2010.com)
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Posted by Shirley Anne on November 25, 2011
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I used to be a person who despised watching soap operas on television but in more recent times I find myself watching one or two of them. The most striking thing I notice in these programs is the way they portray how people deal with each other, more specifically how they treat each other. They say that soap operas are not true to life but in fact they are very much true to life. Admittedly much is crammed into the episodes and much is going on between the characters but when we analyse it all we can see that the things that go on are the same things that most of us experience or have experienced in our own lives. I wonder why people treat other people the way they do. Some people get along with almost anyone, others find it difficult to get along with anyone at all. People can be horrible toward some and yet at the same time be nice to others. Why are people horrible toward others and what pleasure do they get out of putting another down? As human beings we can be both nasty and kind, selfish and unselfish and we are selective in which is dealt to whom. What makes us hate one person and like another, be kind to one person and leave another out of it? If we analyse our behaviour we might find that we treat others in a way which is dependent on what we might gain from it. If someone is different from us we are often cautious in dealing with them but all the time we are looking to see what effect they will have upon us, whether beneficial or otherwise. We may not think about these things, they just come naturally. So when I look at soap operas do I see aspects of my own personality being portrayed or do I feel that I act in a completely different way? Do we think we have faults that should be worked upon or do we feel we are not behaving badly? Do we really treat our neighbours as we would have them treat us? Do we really love as we ought or do we select whom we should treat preferentially?
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on September 11, 2011
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I’ve never been a person who likes to blow her own trumpet unless I am joking with family or friends. I have never seen the need to argue too much about my corner of the world, my life, my problems, my transition or anything else. Some people have a passion, an urge to make a loud noise to put over their views. I have no axe to grind, I don’t need to prove anything to anyone. Neither do I need to justify who I am. In regard to my status, my beliefs or anything about me, in that respect, again I have nothing to shout about. I can understand why some folk are militant when it comes down to the rights of an individual in Society for instance but there are many ways to slice a cake and being militant is only one of those ways and not always the best way. Of course it doesn’t necessarily follow that having a passion for something makes it morally valid or acceptable and folk can shout as loud as they like about an issue but that in itself changes nothing. We are a planet of people of all different backgrounds, cultures, beliefs, attitudes and that in itself becomes a stumbling block to any universal acceptance of one another. There will always be dissidents in this world unless all are united under one banner, even then friction will still exist. Simply put, we have to just agree to disagree, live and let live and get on with our own existence. As mortal beings who generally live less than a century we sometimes waste far too much time rocking the boat. We are here but for a short time, why not enjoy it and live in peace? Why all the hassle? Why all the hatred? Why all the axe grinding? What does it achieve? Some people make a nuisance of themselves and for what reason? They will return from whence they came, they will cease to exist just like the rest of us. Make it known that you have an opinion, like I do on here, but leave it at that. Put down the axe, you’ll only hurt yourself if you don’t!
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on August 1, 2011
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Today is the tomorrow of yesterday and the beginning of new things. All dreams and visions, all desires and ambitions begin today if you allow it. That small word ‘if’ is one of the biggest words in the English vocabulary. Things can only happen if you wish them to and if you are motivated for them to come about. Dreams remain dreams unless acted upon. When we are born we know nothing and each new day brings us new experiences and knowledge. As we grow older we become more set in our ways and less open to change and it demands discipline of us to change when it is necessary. Some unfortunately do not have that discipline nor the desire to change, even if that change is for the better.
Why am I saying all this? Well these last two days at home have been lonely for me. Oh yes, I enjoyed listening to jazz, getting drunk on whisky, playing guitar and relaxing in the warmth of the day on Saturday. It is no fun when life is spent alone because the one you live with act the way they do sometimes. Sunday was a day of almost complete silence. I got up late, missed breakfast and mowed the lawn. Returning indoors I prepared a roast dinner and E and I sat eating it, in silence. It is difficult living with someone like E who is stubborn in the extreme and has an introverted view on life, who can be very spiteful at times, uncaring and insensitive. For half of our thirty-year marriage life with her was unbearable at times but I stuck it out because I loved her so much. Much of what I write here is already on my blog pages above but I repeat these facts now because some things just haven’t changed. When we divorced it broke my heart and for a few years afterward the prospect of us living apart was heavy on my mind. I broke the ice and we began socializing together which led to us deciding to remain in this house together, because of this I spent a small fortune on the house so that in any event E could be comfortable if something was to happen to me. Personally I couldn’t care less about the house although it may not seem that way with all the things I write about doing in it! I do it all out of love for her. I have never discovered why E is the way she is even though I have known her for thirty nine and a half years. She remains stubborn and difficult to live with but tomorrow is another day. Tomorrow she may change, tomorrow she may realise the stupidity of her attitude, for her own sake. I hope so and pray.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on March 14, 2011
It was my youngest son‘s birthday on Thursday he is now 26 years old! Making myself feel even more ancient! Both my sons were very much good children when younger although they did have their moments and knew where to touch a nerve! We’ve all done it though. We all of us have driven our parents bananas at times and really annoyed them much to our regret sometimes too! But that is children and it is expected. There are people in this world who make it their goal to be an annoyance to others. It is the same old story, some people just cannot let others live their lives in peace without passing some hurtful remark about them or physically attacking them. I am not talking specifics here but as I read the news and hear different things about human behaviour toward other human beings I sometimes despair. We are capable of great sensitivity and compassion of love and kindness yet we are equally capable of hatred, bigotry, selfishness and a host of other nasty habits. Even when things are going our way we sometimes cannot help pulling someone else apart or interferring in things that don’t concern us. We step in when we should not and leave off doing the things we should. How wretched we are! We are neither one thing nor the other, we are both evil and good at the same time. Is there any hope for the likes of us? We profess to be good persons and yet there lurks a desire within us to do wicked things. We are incapable of living totally in love toward one another. If someone disagrees with us we put them down and think nothing of it. Did you ever feel remorse for your actions? Did you ever repent and say you were sorry for acting that way? If you did there is hope but if you didn’t there is no hope. We cry out at things which we see as unacceptable behaviour yet we are guilty of the same thing in other ways. Driven to annoyance? You bet I am! People do annoy me sometimes but I cannot do anything about it. I probably annoy them too! In an ideal world things would be different but unfortunately we are not in such a place………….yet!
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Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on February 5, 2011
I wonder if you remember this song from the musical ‘Fiddler on the roof‘ made some years ago now? I was looking out of a front room window at home the other day looking at the sight of a cool Sun hidden behind the thin layer of clouds. It must have been exactly due south as it had reached the highest point in the sky. Directly beneath the sun is the house opposite ours and the sun was exactly positioned above it by a few degrees. It was only a matter of a few weeks ago that we couldn’t see the sun at its highest point in the day because it wasn’t high enough to see over the house. As we approach spring and then Summer the Sun will still be positioned directly above that house at its highest point although much higher in the sky and one hour later by our clocks as they go forward an hour in March. This song sprang to memory whilst I was looking at the cold Sun and it reminded me of days long since passed in my youth when the world seemed a totally different place. I began to think of the things of life, love, marriage, good times and how it used to be. It brought tears to my eyes knowing that all that is passed can never return and the world continues to turn. One day soon turns into the next, years seem to fly by and all we are left with are memories.
(Tevye)
Is this the little girl I carried?
Is this the little boy at play?
(Golde)
I don’t remember growing older
When did they?
(Tevye)
When did she get to be a beauty?
When did he grow to be so tall?
(Golde)
Wasn’t it yesterday
When they were small?
(Men)
Sunrise, sunset
Sunrise, sunset
Swiftly flow the days
Seedlings turn overnight to sunflowers
Blossoming even as we gaze
(Women)
Sunrise, sunset
Sunrise, sunset
Swiftly fly the years
One season following another
Laden with happiness and tears
(Tevye)
What words of wisdom can I give them?
How can I help to ease their way?
(Golde)
Now they must learn from one another
Day by day
(Perchik)
They look so natural together
(Hodel)
Just like two newlyweds should be
(Perchik & Hodel)
Is there a canopy in store for me?
(All)
Sunrise, sunset
Sunrise, sunset
Swiftly fly the years
One season following another
Laden with happiness and tears
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on January 26, 2011
Yesterday it rained. Sounds a bit daft does that statement I suppose, especially when it is Winter in England or any other time in England for that matter! I mention it because we have just been through quite a few days of dry and still weather, however, they say February is the wettest and usually the coldest month of the year and that is just around the corner. I welcome the rain at this time of year because whilst it is raining it isn’t snowing! Heavy rain prevents working in the garden though and I, that is E and I have lots to do out there over the next couple of months. On my free days from work I have the opportunity to do some of that work but not if it is raining. I can turn to jobs around the house for there are plenty of those to do also but the outside work is more important just now.
It’s raining in my heart too. When we write posts on our blogs some of us write about life’s troubles as they affect us personally. I tend not to do that usually but at the same time I could write volumes if I wished to, although if you read some of my poems you will see how life has been unkind to me at times. Many of those poems relate to personal experience. People reading my ramblings may be under the impression that all is always ‘hunky-dorey’ in my life when often it isn’t. I am not alone, most people have problems in their lives and I’m no exception. I put on a happy face to the world when often I am hurting inside. I hurt because E is a difficult person to live with at times but I still love her. I hurt because she needs salvation. I hurt because she is stubborn and inflexible and won’t listen to reason sometimes. I hurt when people hurt me but I don’t retaliate, I pray for them. I hurt because of the selfishness of some people. I hurt because of all the needless suffering on the world. I hurt because of the bigotry and hate towards others for no real reason. I hurt because of mans inhumanity to man………………It’s raining in my heart and I hurt inside.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on January 1, 2011
This year come 27th January I will have known E for 38 years and have lived with her for thirty-six and a half of them. We married 18 months after we met. Which means we know each other pretty well. I loved E from the beginning and that hasn’t changed despite all I have been through in our relationship. Oh there have been good times, wonderfully good times but there have been bad times too. Isn’t that the way for any marriage? I digress. Half-way through our marriage E became very ‘cold’ toward me and try as I might to resolve the problem it stayed that way. She would have good moments followed by bad ones and I was the recipient of her antagonism when she had these mood swings. There was no real reason for them, no medical reason that is. My live was often hell and I was treated like a leper sometimes. I persevered though because I loved her and felt sure she would see sense eventually. She didn’t and it led to our divorce. I had given up my whole life for her and denied myself a lifelong ambition to transition. I made up my mind to fully transition about six years before we divorced and did so three years before that event. For a while after the divorce we hardly spoke to each other but I couldn’t bear the atmosphere and did something about it. We had planned to sell up and move apart but those plans didn’t bear fruit and we agreed to stay together about three years ago. It works well and we get on very well now strangely enough. I have gone all out to please her and to give her what she wants, materially speaking. She knows that I love her, she has always known that, she has told me many times in the past. However she cannot stop treating me badly occasionally and I suppose I will never understand why. A few days ago she accused me of something, which wasn’t true by the way and I told her so and asked why she says such things. At this moment in time we are not speaking again! E has what you might call an abrasive side, she seems to delight in rubbing folk up the wrong way, she has a very short fuse too and is bad tempered! If you remember the old nursery rhyme, ‘when she was good, she was very, very good but when she was bad she was horrid’, that describes E to a ‘T’. The other morning I came down for breakfast and she was already up. She had finished breakfast and was watching the tv we have in the dining room. I wished her a good morning and she just grunted. I continued to prepare my breakfast whilst trying to chat with her. She didn’t wish to know. Why she is like that I have no idea. She wonders why I avoid her sometimes. Yesterday I treated myself to a few bottles of lager we have in the fridge and felt so miserable I decided to visit the pub. It was around nine in the evening and I had no intentions of staying there all night for the new year celebrations as I do not celebrate the occasion, I simply had to get out of the house for a while. The pub was packed with people enjoying themselves and I went straight to the bar and ordered my drink. Within minutes I had all sorts of people come up to me and give me a big hug, my friends. They asked why they hadn’t seen me there for a while. I made no excuses and told them I don’t bother going to the pub as often these days. They were all pleased to see me anyhow. I guess there must have been around thirty or forty hugs from my friends. After an hour or so I left and came back home. I’d had more drink than I wanted and was drunk! After a snack I went to bed and don’t remember much until six when I needed the toilet. I guess I was in bed by 11 o’clock and asleep by five past! I am having a rest today (sabbath) and intend to do nothing at all. E still isn’t speaking to me but I know that will change soon so I won’t press it. Peace on earth and goodwill toward all men (and women)? Yes but only when it suits some people it seems.
Shirley Anne
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Posted by Shirley Anne on December 23, 2010
So it is the season of goodwill to all men……….Mmm I wonder. It is one thing saying it but another actually getting ones’ finger out and doing it! As you all tuck into your lavish Christmas dinners with as much food that you can eat spare a thought for those who have nothing. You can do nothing better than to love your neighbour second to loving God so prove it and take the little two-minute questionnaire on your left. It will give some little child a meal and will cost you nothing but your two minutes………well?
Thank you to those who have responded
Shirley Anne
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