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Annoying me?

Posted by Shirley Anne on May 18, 2012

Just Annoying!

Just Annoying! (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

At a clients house the other day I was asked why I was acting so cheerfully despite the problems I was having doing a certain job for her. My reply was that it wouldn’t make any difference whether I was annoyed or not, the problem would still remain and I would still have to get round it! I told her that I don’t get upset or annoyed with pretty much everything these days because if I did it would only be me who suffered but there are still some things that I find annoying. What is the point in getting all worked up over things you have no control over though? It just isn’t worth it. I have to say at this point that I have a page on this site dedicated to ‘Annoying things’, those things which indeed do annoy me at times but the main thing is I don’t get upset about them as perhaps I once did. Annoying they may still be but more of an irritation and something we all have to live with and endure at times. There is nothing wrong about having things that annoy, it’s how we react to them that matters. One of my pet dislikes in life are bad drivers, those who cannot handle their vehicles safely, responsibly or skilfully and those who think the rules apply to everyone else but themselves. I dislike aggressive drivers and those who think they own the road. Whilst out driving recently I came across a section of road, about a mile of it, that had a revised speed limit imposed upon it reducing the speed from 40 to 30 miles per hour. The change has been well signposted and reminding signs are dotted along the route affected so there is no excuse for disobedience. The road itself is a major trunk route between my town and the next one some seven miles away and is quite busy at certain times of the day. I observed the speed limit as I drove through the section of road affected but was being tail-gated by a larger vehicle whilst doing so. As the speed limit reverted to 40 miles per hour I increased my speed accordingly but the opportunity to overtake me was there at this point and the following driver couldn’t get passed me quickly enough. As he overtook my vehicle he had to exceed the 40 mph restriction and he then accelerated away at something like 20 mph faster than I was travelling which was 40 mph. The sad thing was that I caught up with him a half mile ahead as he was stuck in a queue of traffic at the next junction. I was in the inside lane driving through and he was in the outside lane to turn right. The point was he had ignored the speed limit and it hadn’t made any difference at all but it could have resulted in someone being injured through his negligence. That sort of driving annoys me but as I am unable to do anything about such incidences I never let it get to me. I won’t allow someone elses bad habits ruin my day. I got the awkward and annoying job done through persistence, perseverance and by having a jovial attitude to it all.

Shirley Anne

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They just don’t get it

Posted by Shirley Anne on May 7, 2012

free love

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Many years ago we had what was called the summer of love when, supposedly, the younger generations subscribed to demonstrating love toward everyone they met and to ‘free love‘. ‘Free love’ however, was simply an excuse  to engage in promiscuous sexual intercourse for many. The idea of love, love, love did not last and the movement eventually faded into insignificance. Most people would advocate the promotion of love but in real terms find it hard to demonstrate it in their own lives. Many religious leaders teach us to love each other and many philosophies encourage the same to the extent of attracting followers to such ideologies and religions. There is nothing wrong in that but the question I have is why don’t people place their faith and trust in the originator of love rather than some religion or philosophy that advocates it? People will believe anything else rather than have a belief in God. God commands us to love Him first and foremost and then to love our fellow-man but man wants to elevate himself and disregard God. Mankind makes the false assumption that we can achieve peace on earth and goodwill toward all men through our own efforts but in fact we fail at every turn. It is one thing having a belief in some philosophical ideology or to follow the teachings of ‘a good man’ whoever he may be but an entirely different thing to place your hope in God. God came amongst us in the flesh. Jesus Christ is our only real hope, no-one else comes anywhere near, no matter how ‘good’ they may be. Salvation is but through one name and that is Jesus Christ. Why? Because Jesus has paid the price for all of our sins and turning away from God. Which would you rather have, a nice human philosophy, a religion, an ideology, another human being to follow, faith in our own capabilities or some other thing or would you rather know your creator God and know the real love He has for you demonstrated in the sacrifice of Jesus Christ? Why place your hope in anything else? When you die your spirit will be in the presence of God, nowhere else. You don’t reincarnate and occupy another body, you don’t magically jump to another level having earned the right whilst here on earth, no, you face the God who created you. Be prepared, accept His gift of everlasting life by accepting Jesus Christ as your saviour. Repent of all your superstitious beliefs and faith in anything or anyone else because your future in eternity depends upon it! Real free love is found in no other place.

Shirley Anne

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Is this you?

Posted by Shirley Anne on April 27, 2012

Devoid

Devoid (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’m too busy right now to see you,

I’ve too much to do today,

If only each day had more hours,

I might have some time left to play.

How is it that each precious moment

Is filled with our own selfish things

Not wishing to spend time with others,

Pursuing our own empty dreams?

For what is a life that is lonely

Bereft of companions and friends?

A schedule whose pages are empty,

Devoid of all meaning, it ends.

So make time and space for each other,

Defer things that stand in your way,

Live life to the fullest and savour,

Those friendships before it’s too late!

Copyright Shirley Anne 4 Dec 2002 Poem listed in My Poems 5 above

It isn’t my attitude to life but it does seem to be for others I know. Living in a community, amongst family and friends, if we have any, can be difficult at times. Everyone has an agenda or an excuse. Sometimes we don’t see the need others might have for us or maybe we think they get in the way of our plans. I mean what plans are so important that we don’t have time for others? Scripture tells us and we are told only too often by others that we should love our neighbour. That doesn’t just mean those living next-door but everyone else on this planet is our neighbour, anyone we come across in life is our neighbour. If we have no time for anyone else what are we living for? There are matters to which we must attend to obviously but they don’t take up our complete life do they? Take time for one another, bear each other’s burdens if we can. I speak as a Christian but the truth of the matter remains the same for everyone.

Shirley Anne

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Luck?

Posted by Shirley Anne on March 11, 2012

7 Years of Bad Luck

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LUCK….. noun

1.

the force that seems to operate for good or ill in a person’s life, as in shaping circumstances, events, or opportunities: With my luck I’ll probably get pneumonia.

2.

good fortune; advantage or success, considered as the result of chance: He had no luck finding work.

3.

a combination of circumstances, events, etc., operating by chance to bring good or ill to a person: She’s had nothing but bad luck all year.

4.

some object on which good fortune is supposed to depend: This rabbit’s foot is my luck.
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How many times in your day do you hear the word ‘luck’? The word is probably most usually used to wish good fortune to another person who is about to embark on a journey or some event which will challenge them. We wish people good luck when they are about to have an examination or an interview. Really speaking the word used in this way is totally without meaning. It’s as if we are invoking some hidden force to shape the outcome in their favour. In the dictionary descriptions above the third explanation probably describes the word most accurately. There are no forces we can conjure up to force an outcome in our favour, things happen by chance or by design. Most often outcomes are determined by capability or gifting. Whether we get that job is sometimes dependent not only on our skill but also how and if we are accepted, it isn’t luck, it is a chain of events. The word shouldn’t really exist but it does. We use words like these to describe things we don’t fully understand, we might as well say it’s magic, another word often used for the same reason. The pastor in a church I once attended said there was no such thing as luck, I think he was right. There are such things as unforseen events and many things can work in our favour if we do what should be done to achieve that end. If we fail it is because we didn’t quite reach the mark this time or other events got in the way. We cannot predict the future but we can only hope it will be good for us. Luck hasn’t anything to do with it.

Shirley Anne

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I wasn’t always this way….honest!

Posted by Shirley Anne on March 6, 2012

It Crawled into My Hand, Honest

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Throughout my life I have been ready to listen to the other persons point of view and often argued with them over it! Sometimes my view would be taken as being right and at other times theirs. Quite often after deliberation I have been convinced that my views were indeed wrong. This is how we learn. Sometimes, knowing that my point of view was correct, I found it difficult being the diplomat but being the diplomat I had to be. Being right is not about being superior and it isn’t about gaining admiration, one has to be diplomatic because sometimes we get it wrong too! I know I get it wrong sometimes but I also know I am right sometimes too. As we grow and mature we come to know the difference between the possible and the probable, between what is being suggested and proffered as truth and we begin to realise that what some people say is not what it seems to be and we become cynical. Over the years I have found myself more cynical of many things and I am prepared to say so when appropriate. I try to be diplomatic if I can but some things I find so ridiculous I have to make a stand. There is nothing wrong in cynicism, it shows a mind that is not ready to accept the ridiculous. In a way cynicism is a form of diplomacy, it shows the recipient that you know that they know that you disapprove without having to say so directly. Hopefully it is a weapon against stupidity and confidence tricksters too. ‘Yeah, I’m ready to believe that as they say, you are not kidding me’ is often better than a forthright contradiction and has the same result. There are many ‘scams’ nowadays, people ready to swindle us in one way or another and I think having a sometimes cynical attitude is a good defence. It is far better to dismiss things and the reflect on the decision at leisure than to readily accept something that may prove to be a wrong choice, well I think so anyway. Cynicism can be humorous too. It all depends on the information and the situation. It can turn something around on its head and prove to be disarming. Being totally cynical of course is wrong. Some things we must learn to accept, life has its problems but not everything is false nor untrue, we just have to learn the ability to discern which is which.

Shirley Anne

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Less work, more work

Posted by Shirley Anne on February 21, 2012

Dream Journal - Time Management & Learn New ThingsLess work, more work sounds a bit daft but in my corner of the world it makes great sense! The less occupational work the more time I have to do the other tasks I have to do at home. This seems to be the case for yet another week lately but at the moment I don’t mind. The thing I like about any work that I do is the challenges that are presented before me and as in every task I undertake I am constantly assessing the situation and making adjustments as necessary until it all comes together as a completed job. There are very few things I cannot turn my hand to around the house and it all comes from a lifetime of experiences both in my occupational work and work done privately at home. This makes any project easier to do as I have most of it already done in my head before I actually do anything with my hands. I see the finished job long before it is started and really only have to make minor adjustments along the way. It is very satisfying to see the fruits of my labour and to be able to enjoy the finished job. Whenever I have completed a project I find myself beginning to think about the next one. Between jobs and indeed during them I like to take time out for myself for a day which gives me time to recharge my batteries and sometimes reflect on my game plan. There’s a lot to be said for having a busy work schedule whether that is for yourself or working for someone else, it gives purpose for life. Living it up for a season might be fine and for some people that’s all they want to do but for me, I need variety and something to keep my mind active and my body exercised. Work does both for me.

Shirley Anne

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Something new?

Posted by Shirley Anne on February 8, 2012

I like big hair and I cannot lie.They say there is nothing new under the sun and for the most part that is true. It says as much in Scripture. Anyhow, I was thinking a lot about changes in life more than re-visiting old paths. I am currently getting over some minor illness and when I looked into the mirror on Monday I saw quite a dramatic change in my appearance. After a serious bout of laughing which caused me some abdominal pain I have to say, I finally managed to apply my make-up. I had made an appointment to see a doctor and was getting dressed for the day. I remember a movie from a few years back called Police Academy, I think it was the second in the series where lieutenant Mauser had lost his eyebrows because of a prank played on him. One of his side-kicks set about making some adjustments to his appearance and when we, the audience got to see what he’d done it was hilarious. He had eyebrows pencilled on, eye make-up and false eye lashes. At first he went ballistic but after a few seconds he smiled and said, ‘Oh, I don’t know, I quite like it!’ Or words to that effect. He certainly looked different! Getting back to my make-up I began to think of what I would look like if I changed my usual war paint regime. I do alter my make-up occasionally, depending on what I will be doing that day. I have one style I use in my working day and maybe another if I am out for the evening or at a function. I also change my make-up according to the season. Now all this is fine but I began to think of other changes I might make if I’d a mind to do so and what I would look like if I went through with them, like a completely new hairstyle, a fringe, short hair, that sort of thing. I like my hair to be long, I always have and I would never cut it short. Presently it reaches well below the shoulder line and well on its way to the bosom but it has taken a very long time to reach there. Should I cut it for any reason it would take years to get back to length. E has wonderful hair in that hers grows back quite quickly after being cut but it tends to be greasy and needs washing two or three times weekly just for that reason alone. However, I think greasy hair is often healthier despite it needing more attention. My hair tends to be dry so it benefits by not being washed too frequently, a little awkward when trying to keep it clean too! All these things are quite superficial though and we can make changes as and when we feel we need a change. Looking at my slightly disfigured face after it had swollen made me wonder how I would cope if my face was like that permanently. This is something new that I would not like to experience of course but for some people it isn’t a choice is it? It is all vanity of course and we have grown up thinking that looking good, looking perfect, is the only acceptable thing. I never leave my bedroom without my make-up on but what about the poor souls who are so disfigured that they cannot change what they look like and have to face the world as such? Beauty isn’t skin deep as we are told but that is the way most people treat it. Beauty is inside a person and reveals itself by what they say and do. Something new? This is the sort of beauty I want. I may be nice and perhaps attractive to look at but it is what is in my heart that counts.

Shirley Anne

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Any regrets?

Posted by Shirley Anne on January 31, 2012

Alternatives

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Whatever age we are we will have experienced something in our lives and obviously the older we are the more we will have done so. I was thinking about my life and the choices I have made over the years. Many of us would admit to having regretting something that happened in our lives, an unfulfilled desire, a wrong choice, a failure, a lack of courage, a wrong decision, a bad relationship, it could be almost anything but there will be something. I can think of many things that I’ve regretted in my past but one that I feel I could have seen through but lacked the confidence to do so was to transition whilst still young. It is easy to re-assess our lives and past mistakes afterwards of course and we can all say ‘if only’. One thing is for certain though, had I done so many other things would not have happened. I most certainly would not have married E or had children. I suppose my career would have been vastly different too. I wouldn’t have done the many things I ended up doing nor doing them with the people in my life. I wonder what my life would have been like today had I done things differently in the past. I have no regrets regarding the life I’ve had but as it turned out even that life hasn’t been perfect. I had the power to change things but that didn’t prevent my life turning out as it did. Whatever choices I made had no real influence on the outcome. If my choices had all worked out then my life would have been different so even if I made what I thought to be the right choices really only served to change the course of my life. I had no real control. No matter when I transitioned what followed would have been entirely different from any other time I decided to do so. Looking at life this way you could say there was an unlimited number of possibilities any one of which would have been right. Through it all though I would have been the same person inside. When I transitioned it only changed my physical appearance. If my life had been different it would similarly only change my circumstances and not myself. This is another reason for not regretting my life as a whole but only perhaps certain things in it. Can any of us say that we have made the wrong choices in life? At the time we made them it must have felt the right thing to do. We can only regret doing something because it didn’t turn out as we expected.

Shirley Anne

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Make someone happy

Posted by Shirley Anne on January 30, 2012

How Much for Happy

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Sounds easy doesn’t it? I want to challenge my readers to make someone happy this week, someone who perhaps isn’t close to you or someone who comes into your life for whatever reason. Some of my readers will be doing this already and probably without thinking about it, others may find it a challenge. Not everybody appreciates what we do for them I know but it shouldn’t stop us trying should it? I personally do not like surprises but I do like being treated well, that is respectably. Sometimes in my working day I get unexpected rewards, for example a bottle of wine over and above my fee. Little gestures like that are pleasant to receive and they do make me happy. It is nice to know that we are appreciated now and then. Making someone happy doesn’t have to be a well thought out event, indeed it is far better when we are spontaneous for then it is likely to be more sincere I feel. Small things go a long way. Be kind and considerate when out in the world and always be ready to help those in difficulty. A lot of people live out their lives aggressively and are often selfish with it too. Some never wish to ‘get involved’ in situations and others are quick to jump in and help. Having the right attitude to life and indeed to others makes for a better person in my estimation. I will go out into the world today and forget what I’ve written here but then I know I do not need to be reminded to be nice to others because it is in my nature to be that way. I know in my heart that I will be ready to make someone happy if the opportunity arises because it makes me feel better too! I am not suggesting to my readers that they are anything else but nice people. I only suggest they might remind themselves that they are. I hope all my readers have a happy and wonderful week and along the way make someone else feel happy too.

Shirley Anne

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Food, drink and good times

Posted by Shirley Anne on January 8, 2012

Celetto Restaurant

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I had the day to myself on Friday as I was released from my jury service until Monday. Not wanting to let the opportunity pass by to enjoy myself for the day I invited E out for an extended lunch, well they are always extended when I dine out. I love the experience of wining and dining out and generally socialising and it is nice to do that with friends and family but it is nicest when in the company with someone very special. In my case that would be my ex partner E whom I love dearly. I take the opportunity to dine out with her as often as I can so that not only do I get to enjoy myself but that she can enjoy life more than she usually does. As is the case I often ask her if she is happy so that I can help her to be happy as much as I can. She is hard to reach sometimes but I persevere for I don’t want her to feel unhappy if I can do something to change that. I wonder sometimes what makes her tick, what it is she wants out of life because I feel she is missing out on things when she should be getting the most out of life. I know she enjoys her outings with me but she is often reluctant to show that. So it was that we both went to one of our favourite haunts in the next town on Friday and had a carvery lunch with dessert and drinks. I polished off a full bottle of red wine and later had a liqueur coffee with a cream topping, similar to the picture on the right. We both had soft drinks too, she was drinking Pepsi-Cola and I was drinking the diet version in-between my sips of wine. I like the taste of the cola following the wine and sometimes I mix the two in the same glass when I am tired of drinking the wine neat, which isn’t often (LOL). We arrived at the restaurant/pub at around 1.30 and we left just before 5.00 stopping off at the supermarket for some rum, whisky and cream. I wanted to enjoy another glass or two of a liqueur coffee! I am off to work on Saturday morning which will be yesterday by the time you read this so I will not be able to have a drink, if I want one, until late in the day. I probably won’t indulge as I value having a healthy liver which needs a break now and then! I might have a drink today, Sunday but then nothing until the end of the week when I have finished my jury service. Mind you, I may get on a case that lasts longer than this coming week but in any event I will enjoy a drink or two at the weekend. I might even surprise the staff at my local pub by paying them the first visit for over six weeks. I love life and I love people who are prepared to enjoy it with me. Life is too short not to enjoy it.

Shirley Anne

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Words of wisdom

Posted by Shirley Anne on January 5, 2012

Cover of "Sister Act 2: Back in the Habit...

Cover of Sister Act 2: Back in the Habit

I was watching Sister Act 2 on Monday afternoon. Ok, ok, I was bored but having seen the film once before and knowing the story made no difference, I like the sentimental things in life, besides I had nothing else to do. For those who may not know the story it is about a nightclub singer who goes back for the second time to the aid of a Catholic run school to help them with their pupils. Part of the story involves the trials of the schoolchildren in their quest to enter the interstate singing competition for the best choir, which incidentally they won. Well it is a movie. Just prior to the choir going on stage they were watching one of the other contenders and began to lose what confidence they had when the choir leader, the nightclub singer played by Whoopi Goldberg, gives them a small lecture about not giving in to the fear of losing. Paraphrased, she told them that nothing in this world was ever achieved without effort and if they were to run away from problems in life they would continue to do so all their lives. How true a statement is that? Throughout our lives we are challenged and tested but if we give in to defeat we will never achieve our true potential in life. This is true for anything that presents itself as a challenge before us. The most successful people in the world have a stream of failures behind them but because they persisted they finally won through and became successful. The motto should be, let no-one stand in your way, let nothing defeat you without you try your best to overcome and to reach your goal in life, the desires of your heart. You must stand your ground and not be swayed by anyone else.

Shirley Anne

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What will you do? (And does it really matter?)

Posted by Shirley Anne on December 27, 2011

English: No matter how much it is tried (to be...

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Another year is almost over and many will be looking back to see where they went wrong or where they succeeded in life. Perhaps they will be thinking why they didn’t really get to grips with last years resolutions with perhaps making a better attempt this time round. It is really about a mind struggle, overcoming one’s self, being determined but also being disciplined. Nothing was ever completed without effort. So what are the things which are most important to you? Is it a real desire to finally lose weight and more importantly keep it down? Perhaps you want to finally give up the weed? Is it a determined effort to make more of your life? Is your desire to help others more, pay more attention to your family, get those jobs finished, or even started, you know, the ones your wife has been asking you to do for years? Do you think that whatever plans and resolutions you make will succeed? Well they won’t, not unless you make the effort. So you have the next twelve months to make those dreams come true or at least make every effort to make them so. This time next year you may be finding how pleased you are with all that you’ve promised to do and succeeded or you may find yourself making more promises that you cannot keep. I do not make new year resolutions, not because I am afraid that I might fail, not because there may not be any to make, for I know that my life is far from being perfect, it is because I won’t make promises that I might not be able to fulfill. Any decisions I make will be on the spur of the moment, when I see a need and out of love. I won’t wish you all the best for the new year as the ‘new year’ means nothing to me but what I will wish is that your life will change for the better from this day forth and without the need to make resolutions, unless you absolutely swear by them!

Shirley Anne

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Thinking aloud, why?

Posted by Shirley Anne on November 25, 2011

The Soap Opera Encyclopedia

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I used to be a person who despised watching soap operas on television but in more recent times I find myself watching one or two of them. The most striking thing I notice in these programs is the way they portray how people deal with each other, more specifically how they treat each other. They say that soap operas are not true to life but in fact they are very much true to life. Admittedly much is crammed into the episodes and much is going on between the characters but when we analyse it all we can see that the things that go on are the same things that most of us experience or have experienced in our own lives. I wonder why people treat other people the way they do. Some people get along with almost anyone, others find it difficult to get along with anyone at all. People can be horrible toward some and yet at the same time be nice to others. Why are people horrible toward others and what pleasure do they get out of putting another down? As human beings we can be both nasty and kind, selfish and unselfish and we are selective in which is dealt to whom. What makes us hate one person and like another, be kind to one person and leave another out of it? If we analyse our behaviour we might find that we treat others in a way which is dependent on what we might gain from it. If someone is different from us we are often cautious in dealing with them but all the time we are looking to see what effect they will have upon us, whether beneficial or otherwise. We may not think about these things, they just come naturally. So when I look at soap operas do I see aspects of my own personality being portrayed or do I feel that I act in a completely different way? Do we think we have faults that should be worked upon or do we feel we are not behaving badly? Do we really treat our neighbours as we would have them treat us? Do we really love as we ought or do we select whom we should treat preferentially?

Shirley Anne

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Sometimes I feel closer to you

Posted by Shirley Anne on November 20, 2011

social (sciences)

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Sometimes I feel closer to you. Yes you dear reader! I get quite lonely sometimes. My family is spread afar, my sisters live in another country, my brothers live reasonably close but I only see one of them and that only occasionally. The other brother might as well be on another planet as he has pretty much alienated himself from the rest of us. Both my parents died years ago. My sons, well one lives with his wife, naturally, the other has taken it upon himself to leave recently to live in his mate’s house. My ex and I are not on speaking terms right now and the only friends I have either live outside of this country or too far to be regular visitors. I am not looking for sympathy here by the way, no but I just point to the fact that those I’ve ‘met’ through blogging give me more of their time than those supposedly closer to me! One way of looking at it, a philosophical approach would be to say things will improve or I’ll die first! I am not taking bets on this one….LOL I remain as ever cheerful and never do I get depressed. I am a strong person in that respect but I also have a ‘live-in helper’. I think you know what I mean by that but if you don’t then look at my ‘religious’ posts. I have a lot of time on my hands these days, not much work to do in a professional capacity and the domestic situation is on hold untill I feel inclined to move on it. I could be tempted to fall into bad habits but I fight against it all of the time, my trips to the pub have taken a back seat but that is more to do with my lack of interest than anything else. Another aspect of my personality that you may not be aware of is that I have always been what people call ‘a loner’. I’ve never enjoyed being one of the crowd, going with the flow, doing what others do sort of person but I do nevertheless enjoy conversation and mixing socially. I suppose in these situations I feel more in control, having the choice of walking away rather than feeling obliged. It may have resulted me in not having  a lot of ‘mates’ but then I was never ’one of the boys’ now was I?

Shirley Anne

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Handling defeat

Posted by Shirley Anne on October 25, 2011

Everybody's Got to Learn Sometime

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As children we have to learn quickly that sometimes we can be defeated. Learning to accept defeat can be hard for those who are proud and want to show that they can excel in all things. It is a learning curve of course for as we grow we realise that we are not the best in everything we do and there will always be others who do better than ourselves. Sometimes we find ourselves at the top of the pile and that can be something equally as difficult to deal with. We have to learn that defeat can be a good thing for in defeat we are built-up. One thing we have to learn as Christians is to be able to take defeat and realise that fact. We learn by mistakes and those who maintain that they never make mistakes never made anything! On Sunday afternoon in the UK many football games are played. I like football but I am not that fond of it at the expense of more important things. I do have a favourite team which is Liverpool and they are not doing too well so far this season hovering around a third of the way down the  Premiership table. They are doing better than some though. One of my sons, the younger one, loves football too but he supports Manchester United and often ribs me that I support a lack-lustre team like Liverpool but he forgets that Liverpool has won many trophies over the years but just lately are not doing quite so well. There is always rivalry between football supporters, for instance in Liverpool we have Liverpool and Everton, reds and blues and in Manchester they have Manchester United and Manchester City. City football team have never done as well in recent years as United generally speaking but on Sunday the tables were turned. Manchester City team are enjoying a very good season so far, much as they did last season but even better and they have become serious rivals for the Premiership title.  Sundays game began slowly but eventually, at half-time the score-line was 2-1 in favour of City. The second half saw them defeat United to the tune of 6-1, something hardly expected. My son watched the game but dashed out of the room when the score was 5-1. I could tell he was annoyed by his reactions, door slamming and mumbling to himself he left the house and drove off somewhere. A dangerous thing to do in my estimation. He might be involved in an accident whilst driving in that mood. He obviously cannot handle defeat as well as he should. He normally has a short fuse anyway and is sometimes difficult to deal with for that reason. He was taught to accept defeat as a child but I guess it got the better of him. One day he may realise that being defeated isn’t the end of the world and somethings he shouldn’t take personally. Handling defeat is a challenge and something we must learn to deal with before it destroys us.

Shirley Anne

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