I have spent most of my life without any real friends. When I was very young I did have a friend but when we moved house we lost contact. I would have been twelve at that time. Quite a few years later when I was about twenty that friend called to my new house and wanted to see me however, I did not wish to renew the friendship. I had become a very anti-social person by then and that continued until I was about twenty-five. I didn’t want friends, I really didn’t want anything and I guess I was just rebelling against society and the fact that I was also suffering from gender dysphoria, something which haunted me all my life until 2002 when I went through re-assignment surgery. My life had changed tremendously when I became a Christian and I realised how precious life is. I love people, I wanted them to know what I knew and had experienced. I still do. The thing is I became very open to friendship and will make friends now very easily. Since my transition too I have become a much more settled and loving person. I first found love when I met my marriage partner and I still love her though we are now divorced. Then along came Jesus into my life and I learned the true meaning of love. Even though I am open to friendship and am very generous to those whom I make my friends, I seldom find people willing to be a real friend to me. There are but a couple of people in my life whom I would call my real friends and they know who they are. One of those friends is going through a bad patch just now and is finding it hard to cope financially. If that person is reading this I do wish my offer to help is accepted, for with me there are no strings when someone is in need and especially if that person is my friend.

Shirley Anne


Author: Shirley Anne

Happy to be alive because of Jesus

2 thoughts on “Friends.”

  1. Whilst I was never deeply withdrawn, my transition helped me hugely, too. I became a great deal more outgoing and self-confident (especially with the stutter I had disappearing with the transition) and found it so much easier to connect with people. Like you, I don’t have a vast crowd of friends, but those that I have are very close.

    Isn’t it wonderful to connect with people and aren’t those that become true friends just so hugely special? 🙂

  2. It is indeed Emily. Remember the old song? No you are too young but remember the song,
    People, people who need people
    Are the luckiest people in the world………..
    and so on.
    We do need people and we need some of them close to us. I don’t think I would make it as a hermit! If I had no-one, no family, no friends I would be out there connecting with everyone. Hey! I do that now….LOL

    Shirley Anne xxx

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