Insurance Companies

Last year in March I bought a new van and had it insured of course. At that time I was told I would not be allowed my full no-claims entitlement which meant I had to pay £132 more than it would otherwise cost. I would be re-imbursed for that amount when I had closed all dealings (claims against) with my old insurance company, that is the one with whom I had insured my previous vehicle and obtained proof of my no-claims status at the time I applied for my new insurance with the new company. I have sinced received that proof in a letter. Armed with this information I telephoned my insurers and after the usual five minute wait and then being held on hold listening to some inane music for a further five minutes I eventually got to speak with somebody. She asked for my reference number and my telephone number so that the company could phone back in a few minutes. An hour and a half later I was still waiting for the call so I telephoned them again only to have to go through the whole process once more. I waited again for the return call which never came after another twenty minutes or so. I called again and asked the girl not to go through the whole process again but just to put me through to an adviser. She complied but said if I was to be disconnected for any reason she would call me back. I got cut off and she didn’t call so once again I telephoned and explained what had happened and finally I was put through, after more time listening to that crazy music (which incidentally was scratchy and worn because it was probably on tape!). The girl said to me that I had to send them a copy of the letter showing proof of my entitlement with an explanatory note.
I did all that and posted the letter. A few hours later I received a telephone call from my insurers and a guy asked for me in person. ‘Speaking’, I replied. He proceeded to apologise for the delay and asked me how he could be of service. Don’t they communicate between themselves in these places? I explained what had happened and received yet another apology.
I am wondering how efficiently they will deal with my claim for re-imbursement.
Does anybody else have problems like this when dealing with companies over the telephone?

Shirley Anne x

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Aliens

I was thinking how many people believe that aliens exsist and even visit this planet. I have given the subject much thought over the years but have never reached a decision one way or the other. The greatest threat to the possibility is of course the vastness of our own galaxy and the distances that separate individual stars and possible orbiting planets. Other galaxies it would appear, are far too distant unless one believes in the possibility of worm-hole travel or space-warp travel. Nothing is impossible until it has been proven so. Aliens have not been disproven. So you might think the possibility of aliens visiting us isn’t as daft as it first sounds. The thing is though, what respectable alien would want to visit us unless they were as hostile as we are sometimes. We are supposed to be living in a loving and caring society, or so people say but that is far from the truth. We live together in an uneasy harmonious way. We cannot get along with ourselves never mind aliens! Do you think an alien invasion would unite us? I am not sure even that would shake up the human race. We are aliens to each other.
Something to think about.

Shirley Anne x

Nurture and Nature

Many of the things we do and much of the way we think is influenced by our surroundings and the people we come into contact with. Some of us can be easily influenced, others not so. Our beliefs, our relationships, our feelings toward others are often based on what we’ve learned over our lifetime. Even the way we act and behave is brought about by our experiences in life and our intercourse with each other. Nurture is a powerful thing. We learn from others and we want to be accepted by others and subconciously we are influenced to act like them and be motivated by the same things. We want to belong, we don’t want to be outcasts so we go with the flow and inevitably that becomes normal behaviour for us. However this can be in conflict with the real ‘us’. We may just be playing a role in order to fit in. We may be too frightened to reveal our true selves for fear of being rejected. I was such a person because the real me wasn’t the one on display. I feared letting the real me out in case I was rejected. Fortunately that obstacle was overcome.
Now how much of who we are is due to Nature? How much of an influence is dictated by our genes?
I am of the opinion that Nurture has the greater influence in our lives but it doesn’t determine or influence the basic core being, the person we identify as inside.
If we could be born and live out our lives without contact with other human beings we would simply be ‘us’. We would act in the way that was natural for us, we would, without knowing it, act like men, women or something in between or even both. We would act that way because we thought it right. In fact we wouldn’t even really consider it because there would be no benchmark.
It is only because we are raised with other human beings that we become influenced and begin think about our differences and where we fit in. Why do we have to feel that need to fit in? What is it within us that tries to influence others to be like us or us to be like them? Why are we drawn to those who are like us? Essentially we are who we are and by Nature we resist the influences of others but by Nurture we are encouraged to change.
Any thoughts on this?

Shirley Anne x

Staying in for a while

I’m staying in for a while. I have decided to stay at home for a week or two, maybe three…..Except that I have invited friends out to dinner on Friday next week…..OK that will be the last time for a while……..Almost every week will see me down to the pub a few times. During the week I will dine out for lunch at least twice. So, I am staying at home for a spell. I have these phases, these periods of not wanting to do anything but just chill out at home. The last time I did this I went nowhere for eight weeks! People thought I’d emigrated. When I finally went out I kept getting, ‘where have you been, we’ve missed you’? It appears that people want me more than I think. It makes no difference though, I have to do my staying at home bit when I feel I want to. Sometimes I simply cannot be bothered about doing anything. I have always been like this, it isn’t a recent thing. I don’t know why I do it either. Perhaps I am tired of doing the socialising thing all the time and need to escape. Who knows? I’m open to ideas……….

Shirley Anne x

Foxy

I would call myself a ‘foxy’ lady. Others have said that to me, guys that is. I am not sure what exactly it means. Perhaps it means sly. Gosh I hope not! Cunning? Maybe but even that’s not a nice trait in a lady. I prefer to think of it as coy, shy and retiring…………mwha……..retiring?…Not likely! I am more the life and soul type, especially after a drink or two!
We get foxes visiting our gardens from time to time. We also get red squirrels, bats, natterjack toads, hedgehogs, mice, cats, owls and a variety of other birds too, pigeons, blackbirds, thrush, robins, tits, chaffinch, woodpeckers, magpies, sparrow, gulls, crows, jays. We’d get rabbits too if it weren’t for the intervening roads between us and the coastal land.
The lady in the house is foxy though!

Shirley Anne x

Important things

I regularly take stock of my life, the things I do, taking notice of what things are important to me and so on. I sometimes try to justify my actions and reasons for doing things or not doing them but I am only fooling myself. The bare necessities of life are more important than anything else, good health, well being, family and friends are top of my list. Many people place too much emphasis on the material things in life and miss out on life itself. We can be so pre-occupied with the day’s work and the tasks we face but the clock ticks relentlessly on. If we are not careful we can reach the end of our days, look back and see nothing for our labours. Oh yes, we may see the material things but we would have reached our goal without them. We could not have reached our goal without those who came into our lives. Do we value them as we ought? They are the important things in our lives, the people around us.

Shirley Anne x

The grass is greener

I cut the lawn for it’s first time this year a few days ago. It was lush and green after all the recent rain and warmer weather. Spring had arrived and thoughts turned to warmer days ahead. How many times I’ve wondered what it must be like elsewhere in other people’s lives. Is their grass any greener than mine? Is it worth the journey to find out? I suppose we all think like this now and then. At the end of the day we will find that our lives are not much different than anybody else’s. Their grass is just as green as our’s, our’s just as green as their’s. The fundamental things we share are just the same. It sometimes appears that other people’s situations are better than our own but you’ll find the same old problems in their lives as we have in our own. They have weeds in the grass just as we do. Read Ecclesiastes, the whole book in the Bible to understand the futility of many things we do. It will fascinate you, I promise. Go to http://www.biblegateway.com/ (Or connect through ‘Online Bible’ under my Religion links page on the right) and enter Ecclesiastes into the search box.

Shirley Anne x

Spending spree reprise

Well I did it again. My ex and I went on another spending spree today and I spent £360 on clothes for each of us. We visited just the one store and it was full of older people milling about. My ex thought we had stumbled into an old people’s home! they were everywhere…LOL. Bless ’em. There were lots of things I liked, dresses, skirts and such but they didn’t have my size in stock, typical. It must be that my size is popular (14/16) although I can wear 12 sometimes. I don’t know why sizes are not consistent store to store. Anyhow I didn’t specifically go shopping for skirts and dresses. I went to buy some tops and a raincoat, which I did buy. I ended up buying another pair of shoes too. What is it with me and shoes? Tehe….I’ll be opening a shoe shop soon!

Shirley Anne x

Something about trees

I have always loved trees. They are the most majestic of plants and to me seem as though they have personalities. Many of them have been around far longer than I and most probably will still be around when I have long since passed away. One tree I saw many years ago was reckoned to be 3000 years old but nobody was quite sure about that. This particular tree was undoubtably very old. There is nothing nicer than taking a woodland stroll and looking at the sun through the glorious green canopy. The ‘dapple’ effect on the ground and the bright shafts of sunlight beaming through, especially effective when the air is misty. There is an eco-system beneath the trees in a forest or wood, a sanctuary from the more severe climate surrounding it, whether that be hot or cold. I play fantasy stories in my head as I walk through the woods, imagining all sorts of senarios. I feel a great sense of belonging when I am among the trees.

Shirley Anne x

Forgetful

One thing I can say with all honesty about myself is that I have a good memory. Long term memory that is! I can remember many things from my past even conversations I have had with people many years ago. They say that many people never forget a face and that is true with me although I have tremendous difficulty in remembering somebody’s name if I haven’t seen them for a while, unless they are family or friends. Don’t ask me what happened a day or so back though, I probably couldn’t tell you or if I remember an occasion or something that happened I quite often cannot remember when it was if it was recent. I get telephone calls from people I have worked for just weeks before and I have to ask them who they are and where they live. I will say something like, ‘please remind me where you live’,or ‘what was it I did for you’? So although I have a good memory in so far as I can remember incidences, faces and occasions and from way back in the past, I cannot always remember more recent things or at least when they happened. So I guess I have a poor short-term memory but a good long-term one.

Shirley Anne x