I gotta get out of this place

…if it’s the last thing I ever do. Yes a familiar line from an old song which I think if I can remember was by a group called ‘The Animals’ with a front man called Eric Burden. It was recorded in the mid-sixties. Now I am showing my age which for those who wish to know is 72. As I write this it is Wednesday morning on the fourth of July. Now there’s a familiar date. Greetings to all my American friends, which by that I mean all of you living there. Okay I am two weeks late but the date doesn’t matter. By the way I greet all people the same no matter from where they hail. I am stuck at home though stuck isn’t probably the right word to use, perhaps left at home might be more apt. E has gone to stay with her mom for a few hours whilst her brother, who lives with his mom, has somewhere he needs to go. I am not really sure why he still lives at home with his mom for he is I think 60 years old. Life has dealt him a few bad cards over the years and I guess things just fell into place and kept him living there. E doesn’t speak much about him and I haven’t even seen him for well over twenty years. That’s what happens when families don’t stick together and support each other. There are reasons of course, many are too self-centred and have bigoted feelings. I don’t know why people are like that, after all we are all in the same boat. All you need is love. Now where have I heard that one before? I am not sure many folk know what real love is. If you’ve an ear I can tell you but I don’t wish to preach, not in this post anyway. I see folk going about their daily business and often wonder what it is they think about, what their focus on life is. One day they will, we all will, leave this place and everything in it and in fact it will be the last thing we ever do won’t it? Once more it is a beautifully sunny day, probably going to be too hot again for me if I’m honest. I am maybe thinking I should get out of this place, that is my house and go for a walk somewhere but do you know, I am not sure I will feel better for it. It is late in the morning as I finish this post. I haven’t eaten breakfast because I wasn’t hungry when I got up but I am feeling a little hungry now. After I have eaten I will be ‘reviewing the situation’, (yes, from Oliver Twist, the musical). Have a really nice day my readers.

Shirley Anne

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Hard and easy

Nothing Comes Easy
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Life can be so hard sometimes but it can be so easy too. Things often seem more difficult or hard to deal with than they actually warrant. We ourselves can make life’s situations more difficult but if we could just stop and think things over we might find no problem really insurmountable. In every area of our lives this is so. However, it is one thing to overcome everyday situations we feel we could not previously handle and another when it involves others. Relationships with fellow humans can be fraught with difficulties especially where there is a clash of personalities, ideas, beliefs and so on but it shouldn’t be that way. It is a matter of how much we really love the other person, do we humble ourselves and put them first even if we know they are wrong? As Christians we are told to love one another, to love our neighbour (which is everyone else living on the planet) and in doing so honouring Christ. It doesn’t always work that way as anyone will tell you. I was watching a television program whilst waiting for another program to begin and it was called ‘Nightmare neighbour next door’. Many in the UK will probably have watched it themselves. The title is somewhat self-explanatory but in essence it reports relationships about people living next to each other who for one of many reasons just don’t get on with each other. Often the friction is one-sided and often it is based upon trivial concerns. As outsiders we can see the whole story and the stubbornness of people who simply cannot see their way to make an effort to resolve their differences. It is about love and putting others before ourselves but at the same time we shouldn’t simply let others take advantage. Being humble doesn’t mean being servile. Whilst watching one incident between two neighbours it seemed obvious that only one of them, a woman, was the source of the problems between them. The guy who lived next door had to put up with her unbelievably bad behaviour and for some time until one day he took complete control just using words. At this point I fell about with laughter at what he had said. Leaning over the wall which separated them he calmly said to her face ‘God you are ugly’ and then walked away. He had no further problems from that day forth. Now I wouldn’t advocate being verbally abusive to anyone but I had to admit he had made his hard life a lot easier with just a few words.

Shirley Anne

Wits end and friends

Peace, peace, peace.

We Come in Peace with a Message of Love
We Come in Peace with a Message of Love (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I very seldom if ever write about my personal relationships in my posts though I have been more open in my personal pages above regarding such things. It is hard for me to do so now. Life can be so difficult at times. Stressful situations, personal relationships, financial problems, poor health, irritating neighbours and many more can all have a detrimental effect upon us. As a Christian I am called to rise above these things yet I may still have to deal with them, in fact being a Christian does not mean I will never be affected by them or that they will somehow magically disappear, they won’t. Our difficulties arise when we don’t know how to deal with them. Fellow Christians will say things like, ‘Trust in The Lord’, ‘Lay all your burdens at His feet’, and they would be quite right but we have to meet Him half-way. We have to do our bit too. If we approach things in the right way and trust in The Lord’s guidance we will overcome. Sometimes though no matter what we do it doesn’t seem to work, at least as we thought it should and that is the point, not everything is going to work out the way we want it or expect it to do. Good friends give good advice. We’ve all heard the saying, ‘Some people will never change’, yet we often continue attempting to persuade them. This has been especially true in my own situation. My ex, ‘E’, is a prime example. Over the years (forty-four) I have known her she has been stubborn. We used to go to church together at one point but her heart wasn’t in it. She always blamed her mom for ‘forcing’ her to attend church when younger and that is why she says she doesn’t believe in God. Many times I have witnessed to her but the main way was by example, showing love, being tolerant and understanding and not putting her under pressure. Nothing worked and still doesn’t. I have to live with her and it can be so difficult. I could have left her, deserted her and left her to her own devices but because of my love and concern I persevered. I still persevere and will continue to do so until I die though she may never change. Aside from her beliefs just living together is sometimes problematical for me as I am very often not treated well by her even though I treat her with love and respect and we end up not speaking. Usually it is because of her stubborn refusal to apologise for her behaviour toward me when she is in the wrong. My friend tries to cheer me up and she tells me not to let E’s behaviour affect my own peace and happiness but that is so hard to do. I get knocked down but I get up again and again and again. I refuse to give in to her bad behaviour yet I have to forgive her. I always forgive her but it never seems to have any effect. Sometimes I feel at my wit’s end wondering if things between us will always be this way. Unless you live with a person like E you will never really know what it is like. Leaving her isn’t an option, she needs more love.

Shirley Anne

My Peace

I have found over the years since becoming a Christian 26 years ago but especially in recent years that I have become more aware of the promised peace of God. Up until now I can say with all honesty that I haven’t experienced a peace in my heart like it. It is unique and it fills me with confidence knowing that The Lord is always present in all the circumstances I find myself in. When once I would be anxious about something I find I no longer am. Unless you have experienced this peace, this love from Jesus, you will not understand. It comes without any effort on my part and allows me to rise above the problems in life. I don’t worry about anything as I once did, I will have concerns but no worries. 

Jesus comforts his disciples

John 14

 ‘Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, me back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going.’

Jesus the way to the Father

Thomas said to him, ‘Lord, we don’t know where you are going, so how can we know the way?’

Jesus answered, ‘I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you really know me, you will know my Father as well. From now on, you do know him and have seen him.’

Philip said, ‘Lord, show us the Father and that will be enough for us.’

Jesus answered: ‘Don’t you know me, Philip, even after I have been among you such a long time? Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, “Show us the Father”? 10 Don’t you believe that I am in the Father, and that the Father is in me? The words I say to you I do not speak on my own authority. Rather, it is the Father, living in me, who is doing his work. 11 Believe me when I say that I am in the Father and the Father is in me; or at least believe on the evidence of the works themselves. 12 Very truly I tell you, whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father. 13 And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. 14 You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.

Jesus promises the Holy Spirit

15 ‘If you love me, keep my commands. 16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you for ever – 17 the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you. 18 I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. 19 Before long, the world will not see me any more, but you will see me. Because I live, you also will live. 20 On that day you will realise that I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you. 21 Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me. The one who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love them and show myself to them.’

22 Then Judas (not Judas Iscariot) said, ‘But, Lord, why do you intend to show yourself to us and not to the world?’

23 Jesus replied, ‘Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them. 24 Anyone who does not love me will not obey my teaching. These words you hear are not my own; they belong to the Father who sent me.

25 ‘All this I have spoken while still with you. 26 But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you. 27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

28 ‘You heard me say, “I am going away and I am coming back to you.” If you loved me, you would be glad that I am going to the Father, for the Father is greater than I. 29 I have told you now before it happens, so that when it does happen you will believe. 30 I will not say much more to you, for the prince of this world is coming. He has no hold over me, 31 but he comes so that the world may learn that I love the Father and do exactly what my Father has commanded me.

‘Come now; let us leave.

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Shirley Anne

Take fifteen minutes……………..

Take fifteen minutes of your life, sit down, close your eyes, let the cares of the day alone for a spell and listen to this wonderful piece of music. I hope it generates peace in your heart whilst you let yourself be immersed in your thoughts. I love this piece of music with a passion for it touches my heart, relaxes me, brings tears to my eyes and rest to my soul as I ponder on the life I am a part of. Enjoy……………..

Shirley Anne

The best things

It is said that the best things in life are free and they are. The best things come from God. God gives freely of His love to those who believe in Him and place all their hope and trust in Him. He gives us a peace in our hearts that cannot be matched when we steadfastly seek Him in our hearts and minds……..

Psalm 31:19

19 How abundant are the good things
that you have stored up for those who fear you,
that you bestow in the sight of all,
on those who take refuge in you.

Isaiah 26:3

3 You will keep in perfect peace
those whose minds are steadfast,
because they trust in you.

It is a wonderful feeling to know that God has supplied us with everything we need when we place all our hope and trust in Him. God is a provider and has stored up good things for us when we fear Him. He keeps us in perfect peace when we set our hearts upon Him and place all our trust in Him. Those who don’t know and love God will not know of these things, their provision and peace is based upon earthly things and not the things of  The Spirit. God’s peace is greater than any peace we think we have in our lives. The peace God gives to those who love Him is far different than any other. God is a provider. I would rather have God’s provision than anything I think I need. God’s provision is not measured in material blessings although He does provide for those too. I would rather have God’s love than any other. God’s love is beyond all measure. The best things come from God in this world and the next. I would rather have the peace that God gives to me each day, a special peace that can be found nowhere else.

Shirley Anne

Too much

Don't Be Aggressive
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‘Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexatious to the spirit’, is a line quoted from Desiderata, a work written anonymously. I have always admired that work  as being a cross between advice and common sense. Loosely it is religious in nature but is advisory for those seeking a quiet and peaceful existence. I come across many different people during my days away from home but of all the types of people there are I think those who are loud and aggressive are the most disturbing to my peace. Some people shout because they are hard of hearing and some shout because they are insecure. Others simply shout because they are aggressive and too outspoken, they elevate themselves above others if allowed to do so and make a fuss to get their own way. They are usually the confrontational amongst us, ready to shout others down without regard for their feelings. Most of us if we are honest, prefer the quiet life and only make a fuss when it seems necessary. I have been in places whereby my morning or afternoon has been somewhat spoiled by the actions of others. There are limits to what behaviour is acceptable when we are aggrieved or when we conduct ourselves in society but I see this unwritten code ignored by many.  Whenever I am confronted by a loud and aggressive person I first try to calm down the situation but will exit from their presence if their bad behaviour persists. Life is too short to have to deal with loudmouths. Why should I get upset because of the insensitivity and loudness of another? My past has been dotted with such people over the years and at times I have been left crying after the actions of loud and aggressive people. It didn’t help that I was timid and shy, in fact that made the encounters even worse. These days I stand my ground but I would still rather avoid this type of person altogether.

 

Shirley Anne

 

Driven to annoyance

It was my youngest son‘s birthday on Thursday he is now 26 years old! Making myself feel even more ancient! Both my sons were very much good children when younger although they did have their moments and knew where to touch a nerve! We’ve all done it though. We all of us have driven our parents bananas at times and really annoyed them much to our regret sometimes too! But that is children and it is expected. There are people in this world who make it their goal to be an annoyance to others. It is the same old story, some people just cannot let others live their lives in peace without passing some hurtful remark about them or physically attacking them. I am not talking specifics here but as I read the news and hear different things about human behaviour toward other human beings I sometimes despair. We are capable of great sensitivity and compassion of love and kindness yet we are equally capable of hatred, bigotry, selfishness and a host of other nasty habits. Even when things are going our way we sometimes cannot help pulling someone else apart or interferring in things that don’t concern us. We step in when we should not and leave off doing the things we should. How wretched we are! We are neither one thing nor the other, we are both evil and good at the same time. Is there any hope for the likes of us? We profess to be good persons and yet there lurks a desire within us to do wicked things. We are incapable of living totally in love toward one another. If someone disagrees with us we put them down and think nothing of it. Did you ever feel remorse for your actions? Did you ever repent and say you were sorry for acting that way? If you did there is hope but if you didn’t there is no hope. We cry out at things which we see as unacceptable behaviour yet we are guilty of the same thing in other ways. Driven to annoyance? You bet I am! People do annoy me sometimes but I cannot do anything about it. I probably annoy them too! In an ideal world things would be different but unfortunately we are not in such a place………….yet!

(Posted on my other blog http://wwwminkyweaselsmusings.blogspot.com/)

Shirley Anne

This world has gone mad!

 I suppose we all have our pet hates, things that irritate and annoy us. Some things however go beyond that and to the average person are totally unacceptable in Society. The majority of us do have moral standards which are accepted and expected by the society in which we live. Anyone falling foul of basic ‘decentness’ and morality are subject to the wrath of the majority and rightly so. However even the majority can get things wrong. As human beings we tend to gravitate toward community living and we form societies in which to live. Of course we are born into situations and naturally fall in-line with the status quo. By and large our society is one based on good moral standards. These in turn are founded in Scripture, The Ten Commandments and other diverse Scriptural directives whether we believe in Scripture or not. If we are left, as a society, to our own devices, I feel we would lose the stability and security we now generally enjoy. Things can and do go wrong though and we, as a society, make the wrong decisions sometimes. Common sense seems to go out of the window occasionally when it comes to even the simplest of things. Those in authority seem to take a path which goes against what the majority of us would probably take if we where in their position. I could probably cite many instances and no doubt you could do the same, especially in the decisions made in Parliament. I wonder how we manage to survive in this world today when we see things going the way we least expect them to. The world is driven by business and the need to make money, it is also driven by those who seek power and control, whether that be based in religion or politics and we as those ‘being controlled’ suffer as a consequence.  I will never understand what drives some people in life but only wish to live out my own life in peace and harmony amongst them.

Shirley Anne