Finders keepers

Throughout my life I never considered something which I found to be mine to keep. It was my upbringing, the way my parents taught me, I was never to deprive someone of their belongings as long as I could find who they were. For small things such as coins dropped I never had qualms keeping hold of them for whoever had lost them would be impossible to find. I would even go as far as including the finding of bank notes as long as the circumstances were reasonable. If I found such things inside a building they would be handed in to their lost property department or to someone in authority. If however they were found in some remote place locating the owner would be impossible so large amounts of notes would be handed into the police station as lost property. If it were only one note I would consider keeping it if it was found in a remote place and in fact that happened to me some years ago as I was riding my bicycle. I found a ten pound note at the side of the road. It could have come from anywhere, even a passing vehicle and it would have been impossible to trace ownership so I kept it. Once, many years ago I had to make a call to the office from a phone box (we didn’t have mobile phones in those days). I discovered a purse which someone had left in the box so I opened it and found the owners address inside. I drove to their house and handed it back to them. It contained  a couple of bank notes and some change. It was the right thing to do. Every reasonable opportunity to find the owner should always be taken when we find something which has been lost. We would expect the same consideration if we lost something wouldn’t we? Not everyone thinks that way unfortunately which is sad. I have lost things myself and never had anything returned to me save for the one time. On that occasion I had left my camera in a toilet of a restaurant E and I had visited in the Midlands. After telephoning the restaurant I was informed that a member of staff had seen it and put it in the safe. I posted her a cheque to cover the cost of returning it by post with a £25 bonus for her honesty and thanks. On my walks I sometimes find things which have been lost or misplaced and forgotten. Over the last few weeks I have found a child’s purse with a few coppers in it but unfortunately no name or address, a twenty pence piece, a five pence piece and a penny! None of these could be returned to their owners so they were kept. I even found a small can of rice pudding and a small can of mushy peas on a bench in the middle of nowhere one morning very early. They too were kept. Now on Sunday morning (18 th) I went for an early walk leaving the house at four o’clock. It wasn’t raining but I was dressed for it anyway. It poured down with rain about half-way through my walk however and I was glad to get back home. It wasn’t so much the rain itself but it had been driven by the wind and was in my face for quite some distance. Anyway just before it did rain I was walking along the Promenade in town when I noticed a large mobile phone lying all alone on one of the benches there.

Smartphone

There was nobody around so I put it in my pocket and made for the police station to hand it in. I don’t know why I bothered, there was nobody there to take it. That is the desk was closed for the night. There were officers inside on the upper floors of course but there was no way to contact them and no urgency to do so. I took the phone home and later called a woman who had left a message on it. I asked if she knew the phone’s owner and the woman replied yes it belonged to her husband and they had been looking frantically for it. When I mentioned that I had found it near to the hotel there she told me they were staying there. I made arrangements for them to collect the phone later in the morning but in the meantime I put it on my charger for its battery was showing low. The phone itself must have been quite expensive as it was a relatively new model (like the picture above). There was now way I was going to keep it of course……..that would be stealing.

Shirley Anne

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A tangled web

English: Portrait of Walter Scott (1771 - 1832...
English: Portrait of Walter Scott (1771 – 1832), novelist and poet, oil on canvas, 76.20 x 63.50 cm (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Oh what a tangled web we weave,

When first we practise to deceive!”

Sir Walter Scott from his epic poem ‘Marmion’, Canto vi, Stanza 17.

Many have erroneously attributed this verse to William Shakespeare but it was actually penned by Sir Walter Scott. It speaks of the mess we can get into when we try to deceive others. We attempt to cover our tracks knowing that if we don’t we may be exposed of our wrongdoing. Excuses follow excuses when we are discovered and the blame is attempted to be placed elsewhere, anywhere, as long as the pointing finger of accusation is not directed toward ourselves. Mankind is inherently sinful and the thought of getting away with wrongdoing is quite a temptation for many. Most people would consider themselves to be upright citizens but is anyone so squeeky-clean as to be innocent of any wrongdoing? I think not but there are some things which tarnish the character more than most. I spent a few hours in the pub on Thursday afternoon and for a while I sat alone listening to a conversation between five men sitting a short distance away. They were talking about the last world war and who was responsible for actually starting it. The conversation became a little heated and eventually they all went home except for one who left but returned again after a few minutes. I had previously only a nodding acquaintance with this guy but he approached my table and chatted with me. He looked a bit worried about something and he confided in me by saying he had fallen in love with a lady who by all accounts was in love with him too. I wondered what the problem was and then he told me that he was married. I asked if his marriage was stable and if he loved his wife and it appeared all was well at home. Now not wishing to be judgemental I said nothing about the morality of his actions only to say that the outcome of his problem was in his own hands. His decisions would decide if he had a future with his wife or one with his new-found lover. It seems it wasn’t quite as simple as that and he was now in a tangled mess of his own making. We talked of other things before he left to go home. To my surprise he returned again a short time later looking even more dejected than before. I felt a little sorry for him, not for what he has done but more for the fact that temptation got the better of him and now he finds himself in a predicament not easy to resolve without being exposed of his actions. Oh what a tangled web we weave………..

Shirley Anne

Temptation was strong

A high-heeled ladies shoe.
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On Monday I had a small job to do just out-of-town which didn’t take me long to do. The route back home took me partly into town so I decided to go all the way and do some shopping. Parking up just outside the towns parking meter zone I took the five-minute walk back to the main shopping centre. Every few months I go shopping for toiletries and anything else I have a mind to buy but this time it was for just the toiletries, so I thought! Having bought what I needed I did some browsing and found one of those nasal/ear/eyebrow hair trimmers that seem to be popular so I decided to buy one for £15 which is the top end price or thereabouts for this item. Like everyone else I have hair growth in my ears and nose and plucking them out can be painful. This tool efficiently removes unwanted hair almost painlessly. It is also handy for trimming the eyebrow hairs and keeping them short but I still have to pluck them for shaping which fortunately isn’t that painful! Leaving the shop where I bought the last few items I began to walk back to my vehicle but of course en-route there are shoe shops! A weakness of mine is to buy shoes when I don’t really need to because I have a wardrobe full of them. I was thinking along the lines of a pair of low heeled or even flat shoes for going to work and although I am not desperate at the moment I had to go inside a couple of shoe shops to see what they had. I saw two pairs of shoes that were suitable but I resisted all temptation to buy them. No doubt I will buy something on my next trip in November or December. The thing is, I had already bought another pair of shoes over the Internet on Sunday! I simply couldn’t resist the special offer. On Saturday I had been browsing the web site of a shoe shop which I have in my favourites cache in my browser and I saw some lovely shoes which were on offer at a much reduced price. I closed down my computer but the following day, Sunday I just had to go peek again and succumbed to temptation and bought them at £30, half the original price. It pays to wait for bargains! I will have to wait a few days before they arrive though. These shoes though are not for work they are stilettos with 10cm heels (4″)! Four-inch (or 10 cm) is my preferred height for heels but I do have higher ones (5 1/2″)! So resistance is futile with me sometimes when it is to do with buying shoes! It will soon be my season for wearing stockings again and these shoes really need to be complimented with nylon!

Shirley Anne

Thou shalt not steal

The window replacement is coming along just fine now but there’s still plenty to do yet. The guy doing the house roof should be finished tomorrow. His work has prevented those windows already fitted at the front of the house from having the sealant applied. There has been too much dust and dirt dropping from above which would stick to the sealant. Until the windows are almost finished I cannot call the guys round to do the painting of the sills and the sandstone decorative work which is built-in to the house frontage. I may have to keep the scaffolding in place for an extra week. The guys doing all the brickwork and new walls have almost finished too. Although I have looked forward to having the windows replaced I am now looking forward to the fitters completing their work so that we can have our house back! E and I have been putting each room back to normal as they complete it.
There is a hand-written sign now inside one of the fridges which reads, ‘Thou shalt not steal’. Today I went into the kitchen and found a small piece of cooked ham on the floor. Thinking E had just made herself a sandwich I thought no more of it and imply put it in the waste bin. When I saw her a few minutes later I asked if she had made a ham sandwich. She hadn’t but she enquired as to why I was asking. I told her about the ham on the floor. Now I don’t eat ham for religious reasons so E knew that I hadn’t used the ham but when she looked into the fridge and found but one slice in the opened pack she told me that there were three slices there this morning. The only other people in the house were the two guys doing the windows. I also noticed that the loaf of sliced bread had been opened and left unclosed, something we never do after taking slices out of the pack. We always re-seal the package out of habit in order to keep it fresh. Everything pointed to one of the guys, or maybe both of them, helping themselves to food without asking. E and I decided not to confront them but to turn a blind eye. If it happens again they will see the sign and realise that we know what has happened. Hopefully they might feel ashamed and that will be punishment enough. I have no problem in feeding any people working for me and indeed ask if they would like something to eat. Most refuse because either they have their own food or they prefer to take time out and go for lunch away from the site. It is a sad affair when you invite someone into your home and treat them well only to discover they are stealing from you. All they have to do is ask.

Shirley Anne

Spam and other rubbish.

So far this blog has been protected by ‘Akismet’ technology from 18,924 incidences of spam. I cannot see why people generate spam. I cannot see what they expect as a reaction. Most of the spam comments are sent from sites under the guise of a ‘normal’ individual but in fact they are peddling pornographic material or promoting some service they provide. Can’t they see that their efforts simply get trashed? Although this is done automatically I prefer to manually remove all such unwarranted messages as they are revealed. The same thing applies in my email accounts but in those messages there is potentially a greater risk if they are opened and especially if the links they contain are opened. There is no way in this world that I would do that of course and any sensible person will agree but some people are more vulnerable and are easy prey to these vicious and nasty scams. The world is full of evil and people wanting to do evil things and we must be watchful else we may fall foul of the spam and scams surrounding us.

Shirley Anne

Temptation.

I have just been reading my word for today taken from Scripture. I receive a booklet from UCB (United Christian Broadcasting) and inside is a different message for each day. I cheat a bit and read two day’s messages. Tomorrow I will re-read today’s message followed by Tuesday’s. This way I find the messages are easier to remember. It’s just my way of doing things. Anyhow tomorrow’s word is about honesty and character. You can read the articles for yourself if you click on the link for UCB under ‘Religion’ below on the right.
We all would like to say that we are honest and that we deal with others in an honest way but if an opportunity to make a great deal of money that could make us rich for life by being a bit dishonest, how many of us would succumb to the temptation? Assuming there would be takers for that proposition, would they be able to live with their consciences? Would they find it difficult to look at themselves in a mirror each day and be happy with what they see? How tempted would you be knowing that you may not like yourselves afterwards?
To be tempted in the first place we have to have a code of ethics. If there are no issues there are no problems. Why do people live by a code which psychologically prevents them from doing what they please? Some people of course are not bothered by ethics, moral codes, sins if you like or have any respect for law. Temptation for them means nothing, they simply seize the opportunity. The result is that we have lawbreakers in our midst. There are other forms of temptation too whereby we test ourselves against a set of standards which may differ from those of others or even Society . Whatever the temptation are you strong enough to resist or are you too weak and give in? Are you being honest with others and perhaps more importantly are you being honest with yourself?

Shirley Anne

Cleaning up.

Some months ago, at the end of May to be precise, I posted ‘Not ashamed’ and I was talking about my faith. I have been having some deep thoughts lately about my life, my attitudes and my faith. I have been reading other Christian people’s blogs and Christian sites in general and I am being reminded about my own shortcomings. When I became a Christian everything seemed clear and defined but over the years certain things try to make that less so. I am talking about compromise and allowing things in my life to ‘water down’ my beliefs and what I know in my heart to be true. For instance I read about how the Christian Church opposes certain areas of society and lifestyles and gets ostracised for it. I read how some of the churches ‘bend the rules’ and try to accomodate those who are essentially unbelievers. Whilst it is incumbent to reach out to others it is not acceptable to preach any other gospel than the one Gospel we were given. The Church must stand steadfast in this and face criticism no matter what happens. If our beliefs are based on knowledge and faith then we must uphold them. We cannot claim to be Christians bringing the message of God if we fail to uphold the Gospel. Now I am not saying that I have not been upholding that which I know to be true but I must confess that I have been allowing ‘un-Christian’ beliefs and influences to blur my vision. I have therefore begun to clean up my act, empty my bin of trash and disallow any influences that are not of God from turning me away from the narrow way to life. I have started the process by removing offensive material from my computer, from my personal belongings and from my thoughts.

Shirley Anne

Warm Again

At long last it’s warm again! I was wondering how much longer it will be before I need to stop wearing my stockings and go bare legged. Much as I love my stockings they can be quite uncomfortably warm as the weather improves, that is during my working day. I have an active occupation and during the warmer days of the year I need to keep as cool as I can when at work. Even out walking in the heat of the day becomes uncomfortable if I am wearing stockings. Now evenings, well that is a different story but only if I have a reason to wear them! I have noticed that there is a lot of interest in ‘Stockings HQ’, a link in my pages, so I know I am not alone in the enjoyment of wearing stockings or being with somebody who does! LOL. Now I wonder if I’ll get any offers? Tehe…..Well I can dream can’t I?
So now I am looking forward to the warm Spring and Summer’s days, with and without my stockings…….

Shirley Anne x

Temptation.

Temptation is something we have all faced at some point in our lives and still do I would think. Temptation may be a good thing or a bad thing depending on your outlook. Now I know the dangers of over-indulgence or put another way, gluttony, so I try not to overdo things. The temptation not to do however can overwhelm and I find I let myself down too often. Certain things I really do try to avoid especially in the area of food! I love chocolate but tend not to eat it unless I know my access is restricted. I don’t buy the stuff but sometimes it is offered by somebody so that helps me further to keep my intake very small indeed. Other areas of my life are treated in the same way but often I fail to resist the temptation. I don’t consider this a failure but I suppose it is. However if all things are done in moderation I feel there is no harm. Obviously there are things I would never do no matter how strong the temptation.

Shirley Anne x